…..but keep the old. One is silver, the other gold!
I was driving around town this morning and had the radio on. They were talking about time….and the different meanings of time. How we are pressed for time today, in the 21st century, and we have to make time to see the people that are important to us and to do the things that are important to us.
And then there is the conversation about Time….where did it go!?! How is it possible that so much time as passed us by?!? It was while they were talking about “where does the time go” that the conversation got really interesting. The son was trying to convince his Dad to invite a new friend out to dinner. Dad replied….oh no, I can’t! I don’t have time! The son said Dad, why not ask her for tomorrow night? I don’t have the time he said…again. And the son said Of course you do….again!
It turns out that the son was talking about ask a friend to dinner…make a new friend. The Dad was reluctant to try to make a new friend because he felt he didn’t have enough time left in his lifetime to develop a friendship like those he already has….and cherishes so deeply.He felt that his old friends that hold a special place in his heart/life were irreplaceable and he would be tossing them aside if he chose to develop new friends along the way. And I thought…..that’s true! As we age we become so much more attached to the old friends….those friends that you have had for years! Those friends that you have had for years, even if you haven’t seen, or spoken to them, in years! They hold a very special place in our hearts and we should cherish them dearly.
But that doesn’t mean that we should continue to reach out to people that we meet, people that we think we might like to know better. Our lives will be so much richer if we continue to add new people to our ever growing roster of friends.
One of the really good things about my job as a fashion consultant is that I meet new people all the time! And sometimes, I have reason to renew my old, cherished friendships too. I LOVE that! I love to introduce them to each other! They love to meet each other…..and we all learn new things about one another. You might remember me talking about reconnecting with some wonderful old friends earlier this summer?
It was such fun to connect some of the new people in my life with some of my dear friends that I known had for decades….literally decades! If you have a dear friend that you hold close to your heart, call her! Make the time to reconnect with her. Share with her what you are doing now. Introduce her to the people you see now….the things you do now. And on the other hand, take a minute, make it a point, to reach out to the woman across the way that seems interesting to you. Ask her for coffee. Find out more about her. I am sure she will want to know more about you! After all, think of it this way, why wouldn’t she want to know more about you!?! And before you know it you will have a healthy roster of friendships….of all sorts! That will make your life more interesting….and I imagine…..hers also!
So, don’t forget…..Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other gold. I know you will be glad you did!
We are all busy, but we really aren’t that busy….are we?!
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dress or look that you bought this Spring/Summer 2016? Have you worn it? Have you worn it enough!?!
If you are a regular reader of BBDStyle you will know that I have already shown the Doncaster Fall 2016 Collection here in Milwaukee. Which means, that I have already started wearing Fall. Here it is mid-August and there are some Spring/Summer things in my closet that have become favorites! I have been wearing them a lot….and am comfortable and relaxed wearing them because they aren’t new anymore. But there are a few things that I haven’t worn enough…yet! I will make it a point to wear some of those this week!
Yesterday I got up and put on one of the looks I have been meaning to wear for the longest time, but for whatever reason I haven’t actually worn it much at all! You might say I went shopping in my closet! I separated the skirt and jacket, and just wore the skirt with another t-shirt…and voila!…I have a new look!! Just in time!! It’s about to be Fall 2016….for real! I can wear the new Spring/Summer looks that I know I will find in the closet for awhile still. After all, it is still August! When you buy new things from me I like to remind you to “Wear it in good health….and wear it often!” This is an example of what I mean by that…..the more we wear the clothes we have, the better we feel about wearing them.
I was wearing a new Fall blouse the other day and commented to a client of mine that I didn’t like the white camisole under it…..next time, I will know better….and choose a nude or charcoal underpinning. It wasn’t Awful…not a faux pas or anything….it’s just that I prefer the look of a color other than white. I wouldn’t know that I felt that way if I didn’t wear it that way and decide I didn’t like it after all.
I am going to take this opportunity to remind you to go shopping in your closet…this next week! Wear those clothes that you haven’t had a chance to wear yet….make them favorites…it’s not too late! I think you will be glad that you did! Then, when I get the collection back in October, you will be ready for some new looks! Ready to try some New Looks. I’m sure of it! Fall Fashion 2016 is bold and different from what we already have. Come see what’s new….and be ready to try some new things!
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if Nothing Changes!
I have just finished selling Doncaster Fall 2016 here in Milwaukee. Now that we are settling into a little bit slower pace, and lamenting the fact that summer days will be a thing of the past way too soon, this is a great time to think about your look for Fall 2016. Have you been thinking about a new look? Trying something a little bit different than what you….and your friends….are used to? This is a great time to start that journey.
Take a few minutes to peruse the July and August magazines on the shelves now. I think you will be surprised at the bold, new looks that we are seeing this season. We are seeing Wine, a pretty burgundy red color…..Pine, a rich dark, forest green…..which is being shown with a blushing pink…..Ginger & Pumpkin are a fun and classic take on the fall classics. It’s a must have for you if you went to Princeton….or a school whose colors involve Orange! I think these colors are a really nice alternative to Black….from head to toe! The usual cold weather staple that we tend to go to. I am not suggesting that you get rid of your Black favorites….but I am suggesting that you at least look at some of the beautiful new colors that are available now.
This is a good time to think about mixing up some smaller prints, and some bolder stripes, or plaid. Just think about it for now…and consider if you might be able to think of something different. The Doncaster Collection for Fall 2016 is a very different look from what it has been, which was too jarring for some clients that I have had for a while. But it is a reflection of what there is out there in the market place….in the world of Fashion. So, do yourself a favor and think about how you might modify your look this season. You might be surprised at what you might decide to try! Be Bold! But start by just thinking about it!
Nothing Changes…if Nothing Changes.
For now, just think about it!
I had the nicest thing happen to me this morning!
I had a phone call this morning from a fellow we have known for a while now. Lately, he has been hunting me down, as we have been playing phone tag for awhile now…a few days, I think. It seems that he recently met a woman that he thought might like to work with me and know about Doncaster! He proceeded to tell me how he met this lady…she is a friend of friends, they had gone to dinner together with mutual friends. Apparently, she is a beautiful woman, with a fuller figure and she is new to town and was lamenting that she can’t find anywhere to SHOP! So Randy said…I have just the solution for you!
Barbara Drake! Doncaster!
I know she will be able to help you!
So we took a minute to talk about my business. Although we have known each other for a few years, at least, we had not had the opportunity to talk about the specifics of my business. Yes…we have all sizes (0 – 24), or sometimes referred to as Petites, Misses, Womens. Yes…the look of the collection is nice clothes, that take most women to at least most of the places they want to go. Yes…some people think the clothes are expensive, and that means that the average price is about $195/piece….and that includes scarves to leather jackets. The average price per pant is about $295, per jacket is probably about $395 and the average price per dress is about $350….yes, some pieces are more than some others…but generally we have clothes that we just WEAR!
Barbara, he said you always look nice!! (How nice!) Well, I almost always wear Doncaster…and because of that I always wear make up and jewelry, and try my best for a good hair day! I try to make it a point to look in the mirror before I go out the door. I’m going for FINE. I just want to look FINE. I have issues, like everyone else does……or worse! But if I feel I look FINE. everything seems to go ok. It’s easier for me to take care of business….pay attention to doing things right the first time. I wear looks that go from the gym, to lunch with friends, to an appointment of some sort….and home (or out!) to dinner with my husband. I want and NEED clothes that will take me to all those places….with out having to change clothes all day long! I expect my clothes to look Fine. all day long and perform for me! And I expect them to be comfortable enough to wear all day long. Because I expect great performance from my wardrobe, I don’t expect to get it for nothing. I suppose if I had no where to go and nothing to do I might be more interested in wearing the cheapest thing I can find…but I don’t. The quality of my life is more important to me….at least at this point in my life….and so is the quality of my clothes.
Not to mention how nice it is to have a gentlemen friend shower me with compliments on any old Saturday morning! And refer new clients my way also.
Doncaster Fall 2016 Showtime! in Milwaukee
July 20 – 23 @ Woman’s Club of Milwaukee
July 27-30 @ Home
…and the rest will be history!
I love this one! And I use it a lot! For a lot of people on any given day, it’s not as easy as it sounds! Sometimes it takes all the gumption I can muster to just get up…..and get two feet planted on the floor! But, once I do that, it is a little bit easier to get to the shower and somehow get my act together. And then, once I do that, I can figure out where I’m going, and therefore what I’m going to wear! And somehow I can carry on!
I think the most important part of that is the last part……and the rest will be history! When I first started my business I was introduced to a book called the Power of Style. There were a few icons presented….women…..mostly of the 20th Century and they were cited for a variety of reasons and talents. But what stood out to me was that they became very famous women, quoted for years after there own time….but I thought they were women who did what they loved. It was really that simple. Coco Chanel, Jackie Kennedy Onassis, Audrey Hepburn to name just a few. I don’t think they got up in the morning and thought about how history would remember them! They were women who did what they loved or what they had a knack for….and prepared themselves for their day, by putting their pants on one leg at a time….just like everybody else.
I think these women were remembered for their aura….their confidence, their talents, their uniqueness. In a way, we all have a lot of those same qualities. Each of these women had their own unique sense of style that served them well over the course of time. I bet each one of them had days that it was really hard to get out of bed. They didn’t have an easy life….any of them. Maybe it was the way they handled the punches that life handed them that distinguished these Women and the Power of Style. Think of the influence they evoked over the people around them because of their savvy ways and sense of style. People listened to them and respected their opinions….on a variety of topics. Why? Because of the Power of Style. If you want people to listen to you, look like (dress like) a woman who knows what she is talking about. There is every chance that your audience, big or small, will believe you.
Did you ever wonder….what story will history tell about you? No, of course not! None of us do. So, just in case….let’s agree to Get Up. Dress Up. and Show Up….just because the rest will be history in the making! Let’s decide to make a positive impact….why? Because we can!
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Women Have Strengths that Amaze Men.
They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens
But they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they really want to cry. They cry when they are happy,
and they laugh when they are nervous!
Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes. They live in homes, apartments and cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run, email and Facebook you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world turn!
Let’s make a pact….to be the best woman we can be. We will take some time to spend with the family. Make it a point to reach out to your friends. Get out your new clothes….and WEAR them!! And last but not least…Enjoy Summer Vacation!
While you are doing all that….I’m getting ready for Fall 2016! It’s AMAZING!
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For the longest time I have wanted to gather together a group of FABULOUS women that I have known over my lifetime….most of whom live in the Chicago area…not all, but most.
For one reason or another it just hasn’t worked out. Where to have it, when to have it something needed to prompt me to make it happen! Recently I had a Best of Spring/Doncaster event in the Chicago area. I have had a few events with this same lady, always lots of fun and profitable enough! Which means that we are able to work together fairly easily. This time however, we had a busy event…lots of people, very hectic…..and Vicki didn’t feel well. Not terrible, just not great! You can imagine how upset I was to find out the next day that she had a heart attack during our event!! And got to the ER just in the nick of time!
And all of a sudden, just like that, I got my act together and made it happen! I got my group together and had a party! I found a few people that just HAD to be there….I found a great place, the Woman’s Athletic Club of Chicago, a place where most of us gathered together at least a few times over the years. Although, we have lived in Milwaukee for almost 25 years now I have a relationship with the Executive Chef (a very, long story!) so I was confident that the food would be lovely and delicious! We could have a private dining room available to us so that we could all talk at once, everyone would feel welcome, and we could spend the afternoon reminiscing! And we did! I was so excited about this party! I couldn’t wait to see my old friends, my new friends…..my long lost friends…..reminisce about the wonderful women we had lost over the years….it was a wonderful day! Just THE BEST!
But, at the end of the day I realized it wasn’t about the food, or the venue, or the flowers. It was All About the WOMEN! We are the most amazing women! For the most part, we are Baby Boomers! We are the women that changed the footprint of how the women that came after us would live/lead their lives. My friend Belinda commented that when she went to Kenyon College she was one of TWO women in the Freshman Class! Then yesterday I heard that my friend Jane had just taken her daughter to the Freshman Class orientation….and learned that 2/3 of the class is women!
Since the party I have heard from a few people that commented how GREAT everyone looked! And they were right! As a group we looked terrific! Confident, smart, well groomed and well dressed. And that’s when I knew it! We are amazing! It’s True! We are aging, but we aren’t getting older, we are getting better! I am sure of it! The next time you are getting ready to walk out the door, take a look in the mirror. Put on some lipstick, and remind yourself that YOU ARE AMAZING! And then, believe it! Because it’s true! If you have a group of old (and/or new!) friends that you have wanted to see…make a point to pick up the phone, reach out by email….or “friend” on Facebook….and get your gang together. Summer vacation is a great time to do that! And I promise you …. you will be glad you did!
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This is especially important to remember when life becomes busy, stressful…and difficult! Do you feel like you are never going to get it all done?? Why did I say yes!? How can I do it all!? There are not enough hours in the day! Everything will be easier for you if you fill your closet with clothes that take you to the places that YOU go to.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself…Do you know how you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
When I am in the midst of a busy time like this it is so easy for me to get discombobulated and overwhelmed. I have to stay focused, and pay attention to the details. And Get up…and Dress up…and be Ready for Business!
So, you say, how do I do that?! It’s sounds so easy doesn’t it!? It is simple…I pick out my favorite Doncaster look! When I choose my clothes for the season I pick looks that I think will take me to the places that I go….and to do the things I regularly do…. generally they are perfect for the variety of things I’m doing…because I do a variety of things most days! I bet you do too?! I do not have time to go home and change thru out the day….so the same look has to take me everywhere! It needs to be stylish and versatile. Wherever you buy your clothes they must by up to the challenge of taking you to the places that YOU go to on any given day. If they aren’t, then they aren’t good enough!
Then I find my favorite lipstick…apply generously!…and I am on my way!
Even if what I’m doing today is tackling the pile of Things I Will Do Today! Maybe I will be at my desk in the morning….and with some clients delivering clothes later in the day….or going out to dinner with my husband and friends. I need to have a wardrobe of looks to go everywhere….on any given day! It makes my life so much easier when I do!
As you are getting ready for Summer 2016. Be sure to edit your closet for the season. Add essentials that will fill in the holes…and make sure that they will take you to the places you go!! All the places you go!!
If you are having trouble….Call Me!
It’s May, and I HAVE HAD IT WITH THE COLD WEATHER! But, anyway, I have made the commitment to wear SPRING! Just because….it’s supposed to be SPRING…on the calendar at least!
Last week was Mother’s Day. I had a great day with my husband and our daughter at the Woman’s Club of Wisconsin. It was beautiful…and delicious! But this year I was reminded that for lots of us Mother’s Day is a very emotional time. Some of us are mothers and grandmothers, some of us aren’t. We all have Mothers and Mothers in Law….maybe she is still with us, but maybe she isn’t. We all are daughters, maybe aunts, sisters, girl friends…some of our friendships are silver, the others gold. After all…..
Clothes aren’t going to change the world.
It’s the women who wear them that will!
Let’s appreciate our women friends….and their accomplishments! We need each other!
Interested in the Doncaster Fall 2016 Preview?
At Home…. Wednesday – Saturday…5/18 – 21
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The birds are everywhere! They are so busy! There is a new nest in the wreath at the front door. All of a sudden! The daffodils are in full bloom. The crocuses, the woodland flowers….they are beautiful! And the magnolia tree is about to bloom! Finally!!
Do you like to wear knits, but find them too itchy and uncomfortable on sensitive skin? Spring is a great time to buy knits. I have a lot of clients that like to wear knits, but can’t tolerate the itchy side effects of the wool in the yarn. This sweater that I am wearing here is also available in black dots. I LOVE these sweaters! And already have worn them a lot!
This season stripes (all kinds of stripes, horizontal, vertical, sideways….) and circles (big circles, tiny pin dots and everything in between) are seriously in the very important trend category! Make sure you have some in your closet! If you don’t, Call Me! 🙂
Doncaster Spring/Summer 2016 Collection
Petites, Misses, Womens