And watch the expression on her face change! Try it! You will be surprised, I think.
Because it is doubtful that she thinks of herself as beautiful! I saw something on Facebook the other day…two things in fact. The first was a collection of women from all over the world. There were examples of women caught up in the throws of what life has to offer…we all have them, days like that. When it seems like the world is going to Get You after all. And, right about then a woman walked by and said…You Are So Beautiful (and she said it like she meant it! And I’m sure that she did)! Immediately the woman’s facial expression changed, dramatically….in fact her whole body language changed….dramatically! We need to do that for each other. I’m going to try it!
The next one was a couple of young women, maybe 20ish? They were sitting and chatting with each other. I guess the assignment was to tell each other, what you feel your own personal body flaws are. I got the impression that the girls were not life long friends….and maybe they were meeting for the first time. Each went on with descriptives of what they saw as their own body flaws. In fact, it was so difficult for them that they were moved to tears….as was I. You see these lovely, young women Were So Hard On Themselves!! They were lovely, young women! It seemed to me that they had no flaws…what were they going to talk about!?! OMG!! Each of them had a list…a long list….of what they perceived of as problems/issues of their own physique. I was amazed!
So, I ask myself, why do we do this…to ourselves!!?!!
Recently I was talking with a friend and she was asking me to identify some people in a big group photo. Nancy said, look at Phyllis!! Isn’t she so beautiful!?! Well, yes I said, she is. OMG! Nancy said, I just LOVE her looks! Her hair is so beautiful! She has those beautiful dimples, she has matured into the most FABULOUS WOMAN! I just love her mannerisms and her clever vocabulary! Now, I happened to know both of these women…well, and for a long time. And I know that Phyllis does not see herself like that. And it made me think that it is such a shame! How do you think her life might have changed…or not?….if she wasn’t so hard on herself for what she sees as terrible flaws!
So, think about this. Next time YOU look in the mirror, think to yourself ….what do you suppose others would say about me first? Say…3 things…..I’ll bet you that those 3 things will not be the first 3 things that you would say. Try it with a friend some time. See what you 2 come up with….and then let me know! I expect you will be surprised!
Please comment & share your thoughts about the beauty of women!!
Oh No! I have nothing to wear!
Now, those of you that know me well….know that couldn’t be true! What, You Say?!?
I guess it is more about the fact that I am so tired of wearing the same, old thing! (I could Scream!!) I get up, go to my closet … I can’t decide what to wear….so I choose the same, old thing I wore yesterday…and maybe even the day before that!! What am I thinking??? Whatever ever happened to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….And the Rest Will Be History!? (My mantra?!?) The last time this happened I made a promise to myself….I’m going shopping in my closet! Today! No more wearing the same thing every day, just because it is easier!
So, I did it! I got up and noticed, immediately, that it was a bright & sunny day, a rare occurrence in early February in Wisconsin! I went into my closet and chose something that was right there and I haven’t really worn it since Christmas. Today is the day! I chose the beautiful red, silk blouse, and favorite necklace….so then I decided it was alright to wear my favorite black pants! Some red lipstick…and I was out the door! A few years ago I started a Lunch Bunch group with 2 other ladies named Barbara. Oddly enough we even have last names that begin with D, so we call ourselves BD3…BD Cubed! And just by coincidence, that day was Go Red for Women Day! And I had on my Red Silk Blouse! As it turned out, it was so much fun! Sometimes we have 4 or 5 ladies show up, and this day we had about 12! It was wonderful!
So, here is the learning….I could so easily have stayed in my “same old” rut, but I took my own advice…to GU.DU.&SU. (get it?)…and I am So Glad That I Did! Everything was better. It sounds crazy, I know….but it works. I dare you…Try It….and see for yourself!
So, now that I have had a few days of dressing up….well, maybe not Up, but at least better….I am even getting myself into some of my new Spring 2017 things. On purpose, when I was shopping last with the current Doncaster Collection I chose things that are transitional, that I can wear early in the season when I am Really feeling the need to have some NEW looks. So, now….it is time to Wear Them! Remember, Wear them in good health…and wear them often! That is how we become comfortable in our newer things and embrace all the good things that will come our way because we are well dressed!
So, try it for yourself. Accept the challenge! You will be so glad that you did!!
If you need some inspiration go to Doncaster.com and check it out!? I’m confident you will find some things to perk up your closet! And, you will be glad that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts about mixing up your closet!!
One of the really good things about January is that it’s a great time to go to the movies.
There is a great movie out there right now, in fact it just opened, Hidden Figures. It is a story based on fact. It takes place in the South in the 60’s and it is the story of how 3 women, 3 black women, changed the course of history in the space race in the 1960’s. You see these women were mathematical geniuses…for real! They knew each other personally, they grew up in the same era so they were all familiar with what and where women were expected or allowed to do, and were all aware of the race relations and the mores of the time. But, in spite of all the difficult obstacles each one found her way to thrive…not just survive!
I loved the women! They were smart and they were kind. They were patient, with each other and with their circumstances. They were, each of them, always well dressed. It was very obvious that they respected themselves enough to make the effort to be well dressed as a regular habit. It was obvious from their appearance that they respected themselves and therefore earned the respect of others around them. Each woman had a different shape, like we all do, but each looked great in her wardrobe! I loved the clothes in this movie! Each one of the ladies did everything from fixing car engines (from underneath the car!), to running across the NASA campus to find a “colored Ladies Room” to preparing dinner and saying prayers with the kids. They were always, very well dressed! Even so, it took a lot of patience in order to persevere! Each was polite and well spoken, even in the most stressful circumstances. They each had plenty of obstacles….they were women…..they were brilliant mathematicians…and they were black, in the South, in the 1960’s. And they managed to persevere with strength and dignity and essentially save the US Space program. It is so ironic that the ladies were so instrumental in making John Glenn’s orbit around the earth….and the movie is released so close to the time of his death. Hmmmm…..Another amazing detail? All three of these ladies, in their 90’s now, are still alive. It’s just an amazing story! I hope you can find the time to go and see it for yourself. I think it will get you thinking too.
So, the moral of the story….you have heard me say it before….
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….and the rest will be history!
Use this time to clean out your closets… Think Out with the old!! In with the New!! This is a great time of year to pare down to the favorite “old favorites” so that when you are so inclined you will embrace adding some pretty New Looks to your wardrobe! If you need some inspiration come see me at SHOWTIME!…next week!
The Doncaster Collection Spring 2017
Petites, Misses, Womens
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
I will look forward to seeing YOU!
Please comment & share your thoughts!!!
I am sure I am not the only one that is happy to say goodbye to 2016…and Hello to 2017!
2017! The Best is yet to Come!
The sky is blue…it’s cold…but oh well! After all, we live in Wisconsin!
This is a great time to go thru your closet and find some things that you haven’t worn in a while, get them out and wear them! If you don’t love how they Feel, that means it is OK to part with them and move on. Take an inventory of your closet! Do you like what you see? Do the black pants fit? The way you want them to? If not, take them and put them in a bag for Goodwill…or a Woman’s Shelter near you… right away! Don’t spend a lot of time talking yourself into why you should them this year! If your sweaters are worn and piling, part with them! Add some pretty colors to your collection. It will perk up your day….and those around you! Take stock every week or so….keep the give away bag in the corner of the closet until it is full. And then find another bag that does have room for some more things. Be relentless!! Ruthless, even!
Spring is the best time for a lot of us to buy knits. Why, you ask? Because of the fabrication. Generally there is not much wool in the knit during this season. I have a lot of clients that can’t wear wool…too many allergies, and too itchy to wear on dry, flaky skin. Think about replenishing now! Besides, the colors are generally are so pretty! That alone will put a bounce in your step…even on the coldest day!
If 2017 is going to be the Best One Yet….Let’s be sure to dress for it! Anticipate success when you Dress like you know what you are doing! And be prepared to work your very own magic! Be prepared to THRIVE! Because there is every reason to believe that you will!
Be sure to save some time to come by and see me and the Doncaster Spring 2017 Collection!
January 19 -21, 2017, Thursday & Friday 10-7pm, Saturday til 2pm
Woman’s Club of Wisconsin, 813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
2017! The Best One Yet!!
It is that time of year! The Holidays are here!
This is the time to get out your favorite clothes….first, to find them….and then to wear them!
Wear them in good health…and wear them Often!
Whether you are going out for coffee or having lunch with the girls…or out for drinks with friends….be the one that is in the spirit…in the moment…anticipating Christmas. It doesn’t mean that you have to wear Red or Green! Or to wear an Ugly Christmas Sweater, to coin a phrase! Choose the things you love! Gold lame maybe? A favorite necklace? A little sparkle in your blush? Extra red lipstick maybe? Make it a point to use this very special time of year to connect with old friends and with new! Be the sparkle that everyone is looking for about now! It will raise your spirits…and those of the people around you.
Do you want to fit in…or to stand out?
This time of year, think about being the one that stands out!
There is plenty of time next year to fit in!
We are Wishing you a
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
and…hoping for Peace on Earth in 2017!
Heads Up for…Mark your calendar now!
Doncaster Spring 2017!
Thursday, Friday, Saturday
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
Barbara & Harry Drake
I think sometimes we get in our own way! Why do we do that…?
Think of it this way….if you agree to do something new…agree to give it your BEST shot! What do you have to do to make people believe that you will be successful at this new venture. And then think….what Else can you do?? To make it Better!?! Give it your best shot…and then some! Why? Because that is how you will know that it is the right thing for you, or not. If you don’t give it your best, from the “Get-Go”, then you really will not know if it was really the right thing for you or not? You might limp along, doing your thing….but if you don’t give it your ALL you will never know what the real ending could be! Maybe you will have lack luster success, which would be fine, under certain circumstances. But how would you feel if you found out a year later…or 2 maybe….that if you had done one more thing you might have been GREAT!
Success breeds success….I didn’t make that up! But, the opposite is true also….lackluster performance brings lackluster results. Lackluster is fine….in fact, lackluster is great for some people! But what if you could have done one more thing, and have success from the outset? Then it would follow that you would have wild success!! After all….Success Breeds Success, right!? Give it your best shot! From the beginning! So the success can multiply!! That way if something else presents itself to you, you can have a better shot at making smart decisions about which direction to take at the next fork in the road.
When I started my business, I was invited to an event to learn about something new….Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12. I didn’t know the people that invited me, I didn’t know who else was going, and I wasn’t looking for a job! But I was curious to see what it was all about….so I said YES! I am proud to say that it has turned out to be a Great Opportunity for me! I have met wonderful women….and men! I have been places and done things I never thought of doing. And it has all been a result of saying YEP…I’ll try it! And I did! I jumped in both feet first and gave it my best effort! I have the luxury of being proud of what I have done, because I believe that I have done the best I can….and the results have been GREAT! Of course, some seasons are better than others….but ultimately I can live with the results because I believe that I did the best I could.
It is easier to be the best you can be if you dress like you mean it. Don’t be afraid to be the best dressed woman in the room. The other people in the room will be so mad at themselves for wearing the same old same old black bottoms! Just trust me….and believe it! Because it is true! This is the perfect time to try it out…..it’s the HOLIDAYS. Wear something different…something new….something that you like….and that you haven’t worn in a bit. It’s the perfect opportunity to shine! If someone approaches you and says…what are you wearing??!! And why are you wearing it?? You can tell them that I told you to!
Dress Well. It will help you to FEEL Better! And THRIVE!!!!!!
Please comment & share your thoughts….!
15 years ago I was invited to a luncheon, in Milwaukee….at the Pfister Hotel. The Pfister is generally regarded as the best hotel in town ….especially at that time. The funny thing was that I didn’t know the people that invited me….or who else was going. I had never heard of the company, at that time we were called elana. And for some reason I accepted the invitation and went to the event. Curious to see what it was all about.
My Dad had just died the week or two before the luncheon. He had been sick for a very long time and it was somewhat of a relief, actually, that he was finally going to Rest In Peace. I am the oldest of 4 children and I wanted to talk about my Dad at his funeral. I had decided that long before he died. But when it finally happened I had a really big problem! I had nothing to WEAR!! I tried to find something ‘altar appropriate’….and it wasn’t as easy as it sounds!! You see I have a difficult body type to fit and the choices were, generally, terrible. I found ‘something’ that was fine, but the important thing was that I had had the experience! I knew what it was like to want/need something nice to wear and I couldn’t FIND ANYTHING !!
Imagine my surprise when I returned home from the funeral to find an invitation to come to a luncheon to be introduced to Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12?!? I was anxious to know more!
I was so taken by the idea….by the people I met that day….and the idea that what every woman wants is to have clothes in her closet that take her to where she goes! I had never thought of my clothes that way before. These people had a new product that catered to women like me.
You see, the fact is
*the average American woman wears size 16 and above, 67% of American women wear size 14-24.
*she has places to go and things to do….and generally is very Good at what she does
*the baby boomers are aging, their body types are changing. Suddenly, nothing fits.
This sounds like a wonderful opportunity!! I’m in!! I think I can do this!! I think I can contribute to the success of a company like this. I know women who will want to know about what this is all about….and I really getting to know the people encouraging me to join them! I felt like there was a train going by, with a great team of people urging me to jump on board their train and help them improve their product and to introduce what we knew about to others.
Well, as you can guess, I said YES!! And I’m so glad that I did!!! I am just home from the DONCASTER 2016 Fashion and Business Conference. I am happy and proud to say that I have made a difference!! I have met women from all over the country, young women, more mature women…some of whom have been in this business 25, 35, 45….& up….and some that are brand new!! As our world has changed in the last 15 years, so has my business…and the company, too. But the one thing that has not changed….we LOVE our business! We LOVE our clients!! We LOVE how we feel when we wear our new clothes…..and really all we want to do is to keep on keeping on!!
The new clothes are gorgeous! I know you will want to see them as soon as I get them in January…..especially if I haven’t seen you in awhile!! Come see me and together we will keep making a difference.
If you would like to know more about the Doncaster Opportunity let me know! Or….go to DONCASTER.COM. They will be able to help you!
I think you will be glad you did!
Regularly, around this time of year, every year….
I ask my clients this question. When was the last time you bought a new coat?! And regularly the response is….I don’t need a new coat! I have a closet full of coats!! Exactly!!! That is why you probably need a new coat! And it is especially true this year. This is the year of the Coat. Your top coat is the garment that sets the tone for your whole look! Recently I have actually wanted to wear a jacket/coat. I have a new coat for this year. It is the thing that helps me to push my look out of my comfort zone…it prompts me to try something new. And generally, that is such a great feeling! It puts a bounce in my step every time! I don’t understand why we buy lovely, new clothes and then we go and cover up with a tired, old coat!? Why do we do that? I see it in the grocery store, the mall, just about anywhere and everywhere I go … all winter long. When I see the lady across a crowded mall in that big old coat, hanging down to her ankles, (and she is trying her best to navigate the escalator!) and with big old shoulders, with great big epaulets….I think, Oh Dear! She has had that coat a LONG time!! I know …. because I had a coat like that when my children were babies!! And they are in their late 30’s!! Come on Ladies, let’s get with the program! We can do better than this!
Around this time is when the client says to me….Oh, I can’t part with that coat!! I love to walk the dog in the bitter cold Wisconsin winter!! All right. All right! But don’t wear that coat any place else…once the sun comes up it must be back in the closet!
Some days you will be plenty warm enough with a beautiful, pebble knit capelet. Maybe a ginger fur trimmed vest…with a ginger wrap? Maybe a mixed media black vest? Or maybe a new tweed coat? Or my favorite, the jacquard jacket with a funky underpinning for good measure…the funkier the better for this coat! And, maybe, depending on where you live, the reversible wool animal print/multi print will be just enough….to take you from the garage to the office.
How can you tell if you should keep this coat? Or that one? Try the FFF test! How does it Feel when you touch it? Does it feel good on your skin? Does it make you smile at the thought of wearing it? Does it Flatter you, and your physique? Is it modern and contemporary? Are you prompted to think…Hmmm….How will I wear this? Where will I wear it?? And, last but not least…does it Function the way you want it to? Will it take you to the places you want to go!?
Think about it! Take a quick glance in the mirror as you are walking out the door….what do you think?? Is your look Fine? That’s Great!
Have a Great Day!
I saw the most attractive woman tonight on my way home from the city.
We have the most beautiful lakefront here in Milwaukee. It has been a long day, so I came home by the lake. I was going along with the crowd, not really paying much attention to what was going on around me…on this GORGEOUS, FALL DAY…down by the beach!!
All of a sudden I noticed this woman jogging/walking/taking her daily constitutional walk…you could just tell! She was stunning! I don’t know her…at all! She was a big, tall, black woman…maybe 6′ tall. Her hair was black and shiny, pulled back and she had the most beautiful look on her face. She was plugged into her tunes and completely enjoying her moment! She was a big woman. She had a curvy shape, bigger breasts and full round hips….but she didn’t “jiggle” anywhere! It was so amazing! I guess one reason I found her looks to be so alluring is that she didn’t fit the “usual” definition of beautiful. And yet I was just mesmerized by her demeanor. She seemed so happy! So strong and confident! I wish I had had the opportunity to meet this woman.
I decided I just HAD to write about her, because she made me think about how do we actually define what is beautiful? Alluring?? Captivating?? What is the elusive thing that we call beauty. Take a minute out of your busy day and think about it. I’m guessing, like me this afternoon, when you really think about it, it will probably include characteristics that might surprise you. Confidence, strength…physical size and general coordination. In this case, this afternoon, it was NOT about what the lady was wearing….or….what she wasn’t wearing! It was all about everything else…..and it was fascinating!
Think about it. What do you find attractive….watch the people living their lives around you. Is there something that stands out?? Something that you might notice…and find attractive? In a new way??
Think about it! I think you will be glad you did!
….and wear it often! Those are words to live by!!
Why is it that when we go out to buy new clothes, we buy new clothes, presumably that we LOVE and then we SAVE them! I don’t know why we do that! When we buy new things that we love….we should wear them! They do us no good at all when they are hanging in the closet!
There are lots of reasons to wear them often! I guess one of the most important reasons is because wearing our new look is one way we can become comfortable in our own skins. It gives us a chance to practice wearing them different ways. I always advocate for buying the LOOK…as opposed to a piece at a time, because that is how we build a great wardrobe. Right now I am experimenting with some of my new Fall clothes, mostly because just now it is finally cool enough to wear them comfortably! Last night we went out and I wore my new giant paisley pants….and the tweed jacket/coat in the same group. It was a LOT going on at once, but after all that is what we are seeing all over the place for Fall 2016! This is definitely a season for More is More! Well, I’m so glad that I tried it….because I didn’t like it at all! It was way too much for even me! So, the learning was…stick with one novelty at a time….either the giant paisley pattern OR the tweed jacket. It is more predictable, but it is also much more comfortable for me. I couldn’t wait to get home and take my clothes off! And that rarely, in fact almost never, happens to me.
Earlier this week I was called for Jury Duty. What to wear?? Did it matter?? I’ve been on a jury before, and the answer is it makes NO difference what you wear….unfortunately! But I generally make it a point to wear my Doncaster clothes everywhere I go…..so I decided to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….in Doncaster. The first day went pretty much like I expected. It was long, it was boring, I wasn’t picked for a jury….and I was exhausted at the end of the day! The second day went much better! I marched up to the font desk in the jury room, handed over my summons to the No Nonsense jury manager….and she said…You look so pretty! (Imagine my surprise??!!) I was dumbfounded, but I smiled, and said Thank You! Then she went on to say….and, by the way, you looked beautiful yesterday too! Again, I was dumbfounded…and I just said Thank You. But this time I decided to chat it up a bit with her…..she would become my new best friend! Making a long story short, I decided to ask her if I could be excused to have lunch with my husband….and she said YES! And she dismissed me entirely! Hooray! I’m sure it was all because I was dressed up!
So….the moral of the story is, we have these clothes so why not wear them!? Why do we go to the old, tired looks that we have been wearing forever…when we have pretty, new things in the closet!? When we wear them we discover how to make them valuable to us…these pants, with that jacket…or this one?? Try them both…then wear them each, one day at a time….then decide which is your favorite…or Not!? Which look is better suited to which occasion.
I bet if you try it, you will like it.
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