Making a Difference

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15 years ago I was invited to a luncheon, in Milwaukee….at the Pfister Hotel. The Pfister is generally regarded as the best hotel in town ….especially at that time. The funny thing was that I didn’t know the people that invited me….or who else was going. I had never heard of the company, at that time we were called elana. And for some reason I accepted the invitation and went to the event. Curious to see what it was all about.

My Dad had just died the week or two before the luncheon. He had been sick for a very long time and it was somewhat of a relief, actually, that he was finally going to Rest In Peace. I am the oldest of 4 children and I wanted to talk about my Dad at his funeral. I had decided that long before he died. But when it finally happened I had a really big problem! I had nothing to WEAR!! I tried to find something ‘altar appropriate’….and it wasn’t as easy as it sounds!! You see I have a difficult body type to fit and the choices were, generally, terrible. I found ‘something’ that was fine, but the important thing was that I had had the experience! I knew what it was like to want/need something nice to wear and I couldn’t FIND ANYTHING !!

Imagine my surprise when I returned home from the funeral to find an invitation to come to a luncheon to be introduced to Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12?!? I was anxious to know more!

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I was so taken by the idea….by the people I met that day….and the idea that what every woman wants is to have clothes in her closet that take her to where she goes! I had never thought of my clothes that way before. These people had a new product that catered to women like me.

You see, the fact is

*the average American woman wears size 16 and above, 67% of American women wear size 14-24.
*she has places to go and things to do….and generally is very Good at what she does
*the baby boomers are aging, their body types are changing. Suddenly, nothing fits.

This sounds like a wonderful opportunity!! I’m in!! I think I can do this!! I think I can contribute to the success of a company like this. I know women who will want to know about what this is all about….and I really getting to know the people encouraging me to join them! I felt like there was a train going by, with a great team of people urging me to jump on board their train and help them improve their product and to introduce what we knew about to others.

Well, as you can guess, I said YES!! And I’m so glad that I did!!! I am just home from the DONCASTER 2016 Fashion and Business Conference. I am happy and proud to say that I have made a difference!! I have met women from all over the country, young women, more mature women…some of whom have been in this business 25, 35, 45….& up….and some that are brand new!! As our world has changed in the last 15 years, so has my business…and the company, too. But the one thing that has not changed….we LOVE our business! We LOVE our clients!! We LOVE how we feel when we wear our new clothes…..and really all we want to do is to keep on keeping on!!

The new clothes are gorgeous! I know you will want to see them as soon as I get them in January…..especially if I haven’t seen you in awhile!! Come see me and together we will keep making a difference.

If you would like to know more about the Doncaster Opportunity let me know! Or….go to DONCASTER.COM. They will be able to help you!

I think you will be glad you did!

Barbara

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Coats. They say, this is the year for a statement coat!

Regularly, around this time of year, every year….

I ask my clients this question. When was the last time you bought a new coat?! And regularly the response is….I don’t need a new coat! I have a closet full of coats!! Exactly!!! That is why you probably need a new coat! And it is especially true this year. This is the year of the Coat. Your top coat is the garment that sets the tone for your whole look! Recently I have actually wanted to wear a jacket/coat. I have a new coat for this year. It is the thing that helps me to push my look out of my comfort zone…it prompts me to try something new. And generally, that is such a great feeling! It puts a bounce in my step every time!fall-peek2016 I don’t understand why we buy lovely, new clothes and then we go and cover up with a tired, old coat!? Why do we do that? I see it in the grocery store, the mall, just about anywhere and everywhere I go … all winter long. When I see the lady across a crowded mall in that big old coat, hanging down to her ankles, (and she is trying her best to navigate the escalator!) and with big old shoulders, with great big epaulets….I think, Oh Dear! She has had that coat a LONG time!! I know …. because I had a coat like that when my children were babies!! And they are in their late 30’s!! Come on Ladies, let’s get with the program! We can do better than this!

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Around this time is when the client says to me….Oh, I can’t part with that coat!! I love to walk the dog in the bitter cold Wisconsin winter!! All right. All right! But don’t wear that coat any place else…once the sun comes up it must be back in the closet!

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Some days you will be plenty warm enough with a beautiful, pebble knit capelet. Maybe a ginger fur trimmed vest…with a ginger wrap? Maybe a mixed media black vest? Or maybe a new tweed coat? Or my favorite, the  jacquard jacket with a funky underpinning for good measure…the funkier the better for this coat! And, maybe, depending on where you live, the reversible wool animal print/multi print will be just enough….to take you from the garage to the office.Screen Shot 2016-08-15 at 11.24.15 AM

How can you tell if you should keep this coat? Or that one? Try the FFF test! How does it Feel when you touch it? Does it feel good on your skin? Does it make you smile at the thought of wearing it? Does it Flatter you, and your physique? Is it modern and contemporary? Are you prompted to think…Hmmm….How will I wear this? Where will I wear it?? And, last but not least…does it Function the way you want it to? Will it take you to the places you want to go!?

Think about it! Take a quick glance in the mirror as you are walking out the door….what do you think?? Is your look Fine? That’s Great!

Have a Great Day!

Barbara

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Wear it in good health…

….and wear it often! Those are words to live by!!

Doncaster Fall FashionWhy is it that when we go out to buy new clothes, we buy new clothes, presumably that we LOVE and then we SAVE them! I don’t know why we do that! When we buy new things that we love….we should wear them! They do us no good at all when they are hanging in the closet!

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There are lots of reasons to wear them often! I guess one of the most important reasons is because wearing our new look is one way we can become comfortable in our own skins. It gives us a chance to practice wearing them different ways. I always advocate for buying the LOOK…as opposed to a piece at a time, because that is how we build a great wardrobe. Right now I am experimenting with some of my new Fall clothes, mostly because just now it is finally cool enough to wear them comfortably! Last night we went out and I wore my new giant paisley pants….and the tweed jacket/coat in the same group. It was a LOT going on at once, but after all that is what we are seeing all over the place for Fall 2016! This is definitely a season for More is More! Well, I’m so glad that I tried it….because I didn’t like it at all! It was way too much for even me! So, the learning was…stick with one novelty at a time….either the giant paisley pattern OR the tweed jacket. It is more predictable, but it is also much more comfortable for me. I couldn’t wait to get home and take my clothes off! And that rarely, in fact almost never, happens to me.

fall-peek2016Earlier this week I was called for Jury Duty. What to wear?? Did it matter?? I’ve been on a jury before, and the answer is it makes NO difference what you wear….unfortunately! But I generally make it a point to wear my Doncaster clothes everywhere I go…..so I decided to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….in Doncaster. The first day went pretty much like I expected. It was long, it was boring, I wasn’t picked for a jury….and I was exhausted at the end of the day! The second day went much better! I marched up to the font desk in the jury room, handed over my summons to the No Nonsense jury manager….and she said…You look so pretty! (Imagine my surprise??!!) I was dumbfounded, but I smiled, and said Thank You! Then she went on to say….and, by the way, you looked beautiful yesterday too! Again, I was dumbfounded…and I just said Thank You. But this time I decided to chat it up a bit with her…..she would become my new best friend! Making a long story short, I decided to ask her if I could be excused to have lunch with my husband….and she said YES! And she dismissed me entirely! Hooray! I’m sure it was all because I was dressed up!

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So….the moral of the story is, we have these clothes so why not wear them!? Why do we go to the old, tired looks that we have been wearing forever…when we have pretty, new things in the closet!? When we wear them we discover how to make them valuable to us…these pants, with that jacket…or this one?? Try them both…then wear them each, one day at a time….then decide which is your favorite…or Not!? Which look is better suited to which occasion.

I bet if you try it, you will like it.

This week it’s Showtime!

In Milwaukee ~ Come See What’s New!!!

10/6 – 10/8 Thursday, Friday, Saturday @ WCW

10/11, 10/12, 10/13 Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday @ Home

Please comment & share your thoughts about style & fashion!!

~ Barbara
bbd@bbdstyle.com

Doncaster.com/bdrake

Comments always welcome!Barbara Drake Style Consultant

The husbands…..

are my Best Advocates! Isn’t that terrific?

 

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This is how it usually goes. The lady comes to look at the Doncaster Collection. She tries on this, and then that….looks at her self in the mirror….can’t get over how Great she looks….and says….Oh! My Husband Will Kill Me!? For Pete’s Sake….no he won’t!

 

 

Think of it this way. Your husband likes it when you look Great! I know that, because your husband tells me so! He tells me….when she wears Doncaster she looks great, feels good about her self….and radiates self confidence! I just Love it! When she spends the day at SHOWTIME! with you she comes home looking and feeling wonderful! I love it when she comes to you! Isn’t that nice?! Then he will go on to tell me….do you know know what I Hate? I hate it when I get home and see bags of clothes, usually with SALE tags, still in the bag, tossed into the back of the closet….never to be seen again! That is what I hate! And, that is when I say…..Me Too!fw2016-wsmall

 

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When I first started with Doncaster I met a woman that lived in Michigan. She was a lovely woman, married to a wildly successful man. They had a few kids in Middle School and High school. As I got to know her better, I learned that her husband did a lot of business entertaining. He was very social. I thought that sounded like so much fun! Well, she said, I rarely go out with him…generally I stay with the kids, have pizza, work on the homework, keep things under control at home so he doesn’t have to worry about us. Do you know why she didn’t go with him….for real? Because she had nothing to wear!! Isn’t that a shame!? She had a difficult time shopping before Doncaster Womens came along. I know that to be true because there are Lots of women like that! It didn’t take long for us to find her some Fabulous looks! She began to wear a little lipstick, get a new haircut, and one day she said she would like to go out with Don and the clients….and Don was thrilled to pieces!KatiaJan2012_1

 

 

He wrote me a letter just after that to thank me for introducing his wife to Doncaster Womens. He said she is looking wonderful! And then he said….You know, I love my wife. I don’t care what size she wears! All I ever wanted was for her to come out with me….and my clients, sometimes. I want, and always wanted, for her to share her life with me….and vice versa. Thank you from the bottom of my heart …. because now we seem to be doing just that.10537057_591065384335270_1690727194781741237_n

 

 

 

The moral of the story? We have to find clothes that fit us and make it easy to….Get Up. Dress Up. Show Up….so that we don’t Give Up! Life is too short to beat ourselves up about what size we wear….or don’t wear! Or how old we are….or aren’t!

 

SHOWTIME! IN MILWAUKEE…..

THURSDAY – SATURDAY, 10/6-10/8 @ WOMANS CLUB OF WISCONSIN

TUESDAY-THURSDAY, 10 11-10/13 @ HOME

 

If you are having trouble finding looks that You like…

Whatever size you wear…Come See Me!

I think you will be glad you did!

Barbara

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Please comment & share your thoughts about style & fashion!!

~ Barbara
bbd@bbdstyle.com

Doncaster.com/bdrake

Comments always welcome!