Recently we took a trip to meet up with some really good friends that we haven’t seen in such a long time! It was a Birthday Party, in Florida…
Happy Birthday Chris and Cappy!
and we had so much fun! We have known these people for most of our lives!! We knew their parents…and in some cases Grandparents! And, of course, we know their children and their spouses, and now their Grandchildren also! It’s such an amazing phenomenon, when you think about it! Think about it this way….how many generations do you know of your closest friends!?! Probably not that many! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again! 🙂
We are the Lucky Ones….!
Actually, we had a lot of fun during our short visit talking about ME….and my BLOG! Imagine that?!? Everyone we saw has not subscribed to BBDStyle….yet…but we still had such fun talking about…
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up
….and the rest will be History in the making.
It turns out that the women love it, and often recite to themselves….Barbara Drake says…GU.DU.SU…..but the real surprise was that the men said the same thing! The most brilliant thing about this one is….it sounds like it should be so easy….but we all know that on some days it is Really, Really Hard!
Then one of the guys said, I like the other one she says even better!! I was so surprised! Which one could he be talking about??
Dress like you are going somewhere better…later!
Of course I said!! That’s a great one too!Those of you that see me often know that I use that one a lot!
So, alas, finally it was time we all had to leave and go back to the real world! We went to pack our bags and get ready to go out to Brunch with some other friends, on our way to our next stop. As we rode down the elevator we thought everyone else had already left….but, not so! As we stepped out of the elevator into the lobby the birthday girl exclaimed….OMG! Are You Going Somewhere Better…Next!?! 🙂 And I immediately got it! Well, I thought….That’s for me to know….and for you to find out, I guess!! 🙂
So if you haven’t tried it yet….think about it this way….keep them guessing!! What are you doing?? Where are you going?? If you dress like you are going somewhere important….you will keep them all guessing! How fun is that!? It’s easy….and comfortable….to be well dressed when you have the right tools!! Think of your clothes as your “tools”….and think of your favorite tools as your Doncaster clothes!!
I have the Fall 2017 here at home if you can come see what’s new, please call me! This is a great time to shop….
If you travel a lot, or have the grandkids come to visit Wisconsin in the Summertime…
If you have a busy schedule, and find you can take a break NOW…
If you are a Fashionista at heart and want to see and take advantage of the Next New Thing!
Call me if you can make it! You will be glad you did!
I had such fun! I’ve just finished up SHOWTIME! for Spring & Summer 2017. It was so much fun to see so many friends….some that I see regularly, and some that I hardly ever see! I just love my job! 🙂
But the most surprising thing was how many people told me ….”I’m trying to add navy to my closet”! Remember?? You might remember … That was my advice in the last newsletter that I wrote! It was cute the first time, and in fact almost went over my head! Yet by the time I transferred the clothes to the next person I had heard the same thing from soooooo many people! How fun is that!?
Do you have a problem/dilemma that you can’t solve in your closet? Let me know! And I will try to shed some light on a way to tackle that problem! I guess that my biggest problem is making sure that there is Nothing in my closet that I can’t wear … right now! Everything should be fixed, clean, fit!, and make me feel good when I put it on!
They say, Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal! I don’t want to waste my time with clothes that don’t work for me anymore! They just aren’t good enough. The things in my closet have to take me to the places that I go to. If they don’t make me feel good when I put them on, then I figure that I just don’t need them any more…they just aren’t good enough! It’s too hard to Fall in Love with Your Life ….when your pants don’t fit!
So… start being selective! Be Discriminating! If your pants don’t fit, aren’t comfortable…don’t make you feel good….separate from them right then and there. Keep a shopping bag in the bottom of your closet. If you can’t wait to get out of those pants, put them right into that bag when you take them off…and share them with a charity that will make sure they get connected to someone that can really Use Them!
You will be SO GLAD that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts!
Oh No! I have nothing to wear!
Now, those of you that know me well….know that couldn’t be true! What, You Say?!?
I guess it is more about the fact that I am so tired of wearing the same, old thing! (I could Scream!!) I get up, go to my closet … I can’t decide what to wear….so I choose the same, old thing I wore yesterday…and maybe even the day before that!! What am I thinking??? Whatever ever happened to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….And the Rest Will Be History!? (My mantra?!?) The last time this happened I made a promise to myself….I’m going shopping in my closet! Today! No more wearing the same thing every day, just because it is easier!
So, I did it! I got up and noticed, immediately, that it was a bright & sunny day, a rare occurrence in early February in Wisconsin! I went into my closet and chose something that was right there and I haven’t really worn it since Christmas. Today is the day! I chose the beautiful red, silk blouse, and favorite necklace….so then I decided it was alright to wear my favorite black pants! Some red lipstick…and I was out the door! A few years ago I started a Lunch Bunch group with 2 other ladies named Barbara. Oddly enough we even have last names that begin with D, so we call ourselves BD3…BD Cubed! And just by coincidence, that day was Go Red for Women Day! And I had on my Red Silk Blouse! As it turned out, it was so much fun! Sometimes we have 4 or 5 ladies show up, and this day we had about 12! It was wonderful!
So, here is the learning….I could so easily have stayed in my “same old” rut, but I took my own advice…to GU.DU.&SU. (get it?)…and I am So Glad That I Did! Everything was better. It sounds crazy, I know….but it works. I dare you…Try It….and see for yourself!
So, now that I have had a few days of dressing up….well, maybe not Up, but at least better….I am even getting myself into some of my new Spring 2017 things. On purpose, when I was shopping last with the current Doncaster Collection I chose things that are transitional, that I can wear early in the season when I am Really feeling the need to have some NEW looks. So, now….it is time to Wear Them! Remember, Wear them in good health…and wear them often! That is how we become comfortable in our newer things and embrace all the good things that will come our way because we are well dressed!
So, try it for yourself. Accept the challenge! You will be so glad that you did!!
If you need some inspiration go to Doncaster.com and check it out!? I’m confident you will find some things to perk up your closet! And, you will be glad that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts about mixing up your closet!!
One of the really good things about January is that it’s a great time to go to the movies.
There is a great movie out there right now, in fact it just opened, Hidden Figures. It is a story based on fact. It takes place in the South in the 60’s and it is the story of how 3 women, 3 black women, changed the course of history in the space race in the 1960’s. You see these women were mathematical geniuses…for real! They knew each other personally, they grew up in the same era so they were all familiar with what and where women were expected or allowed to do, and were all aware of the race relations and the mores of the time. But, in spite of all the difficult obstacles each one found her way to thrive…not just survive!
I loved the women! They were smart and they were kind. They were patient, with each other and with their circumstances. They were, each of them, always well dressed. It was very obvious that they respected themselves enough to make the effort to be well dressed as a regular habit. It was obvious from their appearance that they respected themselves and therefore earned the respect of others around them. Each woman had a different shape, like we all do, but each looked great in her wardrobe! I loved the clothes in this movie! Each one of the ladies did everything from fixing car engines (from underneath the car!), to running across the NASA campus to find a “colored Ladies Room” to preparing dinner and saying prayers with the kids. They were always, very well dressed! Even so, it took a lot of patience in order to persevere! Each was polite and well spoken, even in the most stressful circumstances. They each had plenty of obstacles….they were women…..they were brilliant mathematicians…and they were black, in the South, in the 1960’s. And they managed to persevere with strength and dignity and essentially save the US Space program. It is so ironic that the ladies were so instrumental in making John Glenn’s orbit around the earth….and the movie is released so close to the time of his death. Hmmmm…..Another amazing detail? All three of these ladies, in their 90’s now, are still alive. It’s just an amazing story! I hope you can find the time to go and see it for yourself. I think it will get you thinking too.
So, the moral of the story….you have heard me say it before….
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….and the rest will be history!
Use this time to clean out your closets… Think Out with the old!! In with the New!! This is a great time of year to pare down to the favorite “old favorites” so that when you are so inclined you will embrace adding some pretty New Looks to your wardrobe! If you need some inspiration come see me at SHOWTIME!…next week!
The Doncaster Collection Spring 2017
Petites, Misses, Womens
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
I will look forward to seeing YOU!
Please comment & share your thoughts!!!
I am sure I am not the only one that is happy to say goodbye to 2016…and Hello to 2017!
2017! The Best is yet to Come!
The sky is blue…it’s cold…but oh well! After all, we live in Wisconsin!
This is a great time to go thru your closet and find some things that you haven’t worn in a while, get them out and wear them! If you don’t love how they Feel, that means it is OK to part with them and move on. Take an inventory of your closet! Do you like what you see? Do the black pants fit? The way you want them to? If not, take them and put them in a bag for Goodwill…or a Woman’s Shelter near you… right away! Don’t spend a lot of time talking yourself into why you should them this year! If your sweaters are worn and piling, part with them! Add some pretty colors to your collection. It will perk up your day….and those around you! Take stock every week or so….keep the give away bag in the corner of the closet until it is full. And then find another bag that does have room for some more things. Be relentless!! Ruthless, even!
Spring is the best time for a lot of us to buy knits. Why, you ask? Because of the fabrication. Generally there is not much wool in the knit during this season. I have a lot of clients that can’t wear wool…too many allergies, and too itchy to wear on dry, flaky skin. Think about replenishing now! Besides, the colors are generally are so pretty! That alone will put a bounce in your step…even on the coldest day!
If 2017 is going to be the Best One Yet….Let’s be sure to dress for it! Anticipate success when you Dress like you know what you are doing! And be prepared to work your very own magic! Be prepared to THRIVE! Because there is every reason to believe that you will!
Be sure to save some time to come by and see me and the Doncaster Spring 2017 Collection!
January 19 -21, 2017, Thursday & Friday 10-7pm, Saturday til 2pm
Woman’s Club of Wisconsin, 813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
2017! The Best One Yet!!
It is that time of year! The Holidays are here!
This is the time to get out your favorite clothes….first, to find them….and then to wear them!
Wear them in good health…and wear them Often!
Whether you are going out for coffee or having lunch with the girls…or out for drinks with friends….be the one that is in the spirit…in the moment…anticipating Christmas. It doesn’t mean that you have to wear Red or Green! Or to wear an Ugly Christmas Sweater, to coin a phrase! Choose the things you love! Gold lame maybe? A favorite necklace? A little sparkle in your blush? Extra red lipstick maybe? Make it a point to use this very special time of year to connect with old friends and with new! Be the sparkle that everyone is looking for about now! It will raise your spirits…and those of the people around you.
Do you want to fit in…or to stand out?
This time of year, think about being the one that stands out!
There is plenty of time next year to fit in!
We are Wishing you a
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
and…hoping for Peace on Earth in 2017!
Heads Up for…Mark your calendar now!
Doncaster Spring 2017!
Thursday, Friday, Saturday
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
Barbara & Harry Drake
I think sometimes we get in our own way! Why do we do that…?
Think of it this way….if you agree to do something new…agree to give it your BEST shot! What do you have to do to make people believe that you will be successful at this new venture. And then think….what Else can you do?? To make it Better!?! Give it your best shot…and then some! Why? Because that is how you will know that it is the right thing for you, or not. If you don’t give it your best, from the “Get-Go”, then you really will not know if it was really the right thing for you or not? You might limp along, doing your thing….but if you don’t give it your ALL you will never know what the real ending could be! Maybe you will have lack luster success, which would be fine, under certain circumstances. But how would you feel if you found out a year later…or 2 maybe….that if you had done one more thing you might have been GREAT!
Success breeds success….I didn’t make that up! But, the opposite is true also….lackluster performance brings lackluster results. Lackluster is fine….in fact, lackluster is great for some people! But what if you could have done one more thing, and have success from the outset? Then it would follow that you would have wild success!! After all….Success Breeds Success, right!? Give it your best shot! From the beginning! So the success can multiply!! That way if something else presents itself to you, you can have a better shot at making smart decisions about which direction to take at the next fork in the road.
When I started my business, I was invited to an event to learn about something new….Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12. I didn’t know the people that invited me, I didn’t know who else was going, and I wasn’t looking for a job! But I was curious to see what it was all about….so I said YES! I am proud to say that it has turned out to be a Great Opportunity for me! I have met wonderful women….and men! I have been places and done things I never thought of doing. And it has all been a result of saying YEP…I’ll try it! And I did! I jumped in both feet first and gave it my best effort! I have the luxury of being proud of what I have done, because I believe that I have done the best I can….and the results have been GREAT! Of course, some seasons are better than others….but ultimately I can live with the results because I believe that I did the best I could.
It is easier to be the best you can be if you dress like you mean it. Don’t be afraid to be the best dressed woman in the room. The other people in the room will be so mad at themselves for wearing the same old same old black bottoms! Just trust me….and believe it! Because it is true! This is the perfect time to try it out…..it’s the HOLIDAYS. Wear something different…something new….something that you like….and that you haven’t worn in a bit. It’s the perfect opportunity to shine! If someone approaches you and says…what are you wearing??!! And why are you wearing it?? You can tell them that I told you to!
Dress Well. It will help you to FEEL Better! And THRIVE!!!!!!
Please comment & share your thoughts….!
Regularly, around this time of year, every year….
I ask my clients this question. When was the last time you bought a new coat?! And regularly the response is….I don’t need a new coat! I have a closet full of coats!! Exactly!!! That is why you probably need a new coat! And it is especially true this year. This is the year of the Coat. Your top coat is the garment that sets the tone for your whole look! Recently I have actually wanted to wear a jacket/coat. I have a new coat for this year. It is the thing that helps me to push my look out of my comfort zone…it prompts me to try something new. And generally, that is such a great feeling! It puts a bounce in my step every time! I don’t understand why we buy lovely, new clothes and then we go and cover up with a tired, old coat!? Why do we do that? I see it in the grocery store, the mall, just about anywhere and everywhere I go … all winter long. When I see the lady across a crowded mall in that big old coat, hanging down to her ankles, (and she is trying her best to navigate the escalator!) and with big old shoulders, with great big epaulets….I think, Oh Dear! She has had that coat a LONG time!! I know …. because I had a coat like that when my children were babies!! And they are in their late 30’s!! Come on Ladies, let’s get with the program! We can do better than this!
Around this time is when the client says to me….Oh, I can’t part with that coat!! I love to walk the dog in the bitter cold Wisconsin winter!! All right. All right! But don’t wear that coat any place else…once the sun comes up it must be back in the closet!
Some days you will be plenty warm enough with a beautiful, pebble knit capelet. Maybe a ginger fur trimmed vest…with a ginger wrap? Maybe a mixed media black vest? Or maybe a new tweed coat? Or my favorite, the jacquard jacket with a funky underpinning for good measure…the funkier the better for this coat! And, maybe, depending on where you live, the reversible wool animal print/multi print will be just enough….to take you from the garage to the office.
How can you tell if you should keep this coat? Or that one? Try the FFF test! How does it Feel when you touch it? Does it feel good on your skin? Does it make you smile at the thought of wearing it? Does it Flatter you, and your physique? Is it modern and contemporary? Are you prompted to think…Hmmm….How will I wear this? Where will I wear it?? And, last but not least…does it Function the way you want it to? Will it take you to the places you want to go!?
Think about it! Take a quick glance in the mirror as you are walking out the door….what do you think?? Is your look Fine? That’s Great!
Have a Great Day!
Trunk show Shopping?
If the answer is NO, and even if the answer is YES, there are a few things you should know about the Trunk Show Shopping business model.
There are 3 prominent trunks show companies, Doncaster, Carlisle/Etcetera, and Worth/WorthWear. Doncaster was established in 1931 so you know the business has been around for a while! When I started in the business I really didn’t know anything about the business because I really had not ever shopped this way before. I learned how to make the best use of my Fashion $$$ from my clients!
There are 2 essential elements to Trunk Show Shopping. One, is that you spend more money at one time, generally early in the season…. and the other is that you will work closely with a consultant to make smart choices that will work for You!
My first client, Linda, was delighted with the Doncaster choices when I was the beginner. She was a thoughtful, careful shopper….and we picked out 2 complete looks for her….which came to about 15 pieces of clothing. I was surprised at the bill and thought for sure she would change her mind when I told her the total price. She picked a couple of looks of a basic jacket, pants and skirt, basic underpinning (blouse), novelty blouse, novelty pants….and probably a novelty jacket….and a variety of accessories. She was so excited about her choices!! She assured me that this was a great purchase for her, because these clothes all worked together, she could wear them everywhere she was going. They were classic, updated looks that will make all the clothes in her closet feel like new again! She explained to me then that she had been shopping this way for awhile….and she was convinced that even though she takes a big hit to her bank account once, 4 times per year….she doesn’t waste a lot of time and money wandering around the mall looking for Clothes! Serious Clothes…..clothes to wear hard….and to wear often! Clothes that will take her to all the places she goes….which is a lot of places! She explained, I get so much more for my money by buying looks instead of pieces. When you shop early in the season you can really wear your clothes often, so when the next major season opens, you will be ready for some new clothes!
When you work with a consultant you will likely establish a close relationship with her. She begins to know you….actually a lot about you! A good consultant will know her stuff! She will know what the trends for the season are going to be, even though they might be new to you….and her, sometimes! She will get to know a lot about you because she will know what you like….where you are going, what kinds of places…..she will know about your business and what your needs are for your daily routine….where you are going for vacation….who is getting married, and where….and what’s happening with your family! And because she knows those things about you and your life, she will be able to guide you to making smart choices for your wardrobe. Most women want clothes that are classic and well made, but have a touch of novelty….maybe newer color choices (for Fall 2016 think Pine & Wine!) She wants clothes that fit in her comfort zone, but have a modern twist also. That’s where the consultant is worth every penny! She will guide you in the right direction. And if she doesn’t….maybe it’s time to look at a different line!
Generally speaking, if you limit your sale shopping jaunts, and stick to the tried and true looks you choose with your consultant you will find that your Doncaster clothes are worth it! They will be your Go To looks that take you to the places you go to, and you will be so glad that you have them! Don’t beat yourself up about the price! Realize that you get what you pay for, and what you really want are beautiful clothes that take you everywhere you go….looking and feeling like a million $$$.
What we both want is to make it easy for you to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up…..and look like a woman who knows what she is talking about! That, my friend, is worth a lot!
Try it! I bet you will like it!
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dress or look that you bought this Spring/Summer 2016? Have you worn it? Have you worn it enough!?!
If you are a regular reader of BBDStyle you will know that I have already shown the Doncaster Fall 2016 Collection here in Milwaukee. Which means, that I have already started wearing Fall. Here it is mid-August and there are some Spring/Summer things in my closet that have become favorites! I have been wearing them a lot….and am comfortable and relaxed wearing them because they aren’t new anymore. But there are a few things that I haven’t worn enough…yet! I will make it a point to wear some of those this week!
Yesterday I got up and put on one of the looks I have been meaning to wear for the longest time, but for whatever reason I haven’t actually worn it much at all! You might say I went shopping in my closet! I separated the skirt and jacket, and just wore the skirt with another t-shirt…and voila!…I have a new look!! Just in time!! It’s about to be Fall 2016….for real! I can wear the new Spring/Summer looks that I know I will find in the closet for awhile still. After all, it is still August! When you buy new things from me I like to remind you to “Wear it in good health….and wear it often!” This is an example of what I mean by that…..the more we wear the clothes we have, the better we feel about wearing them.
I was wearing a new Fall blouse the other day and commented to a client of mine that I didn’t like the white camisole under it…..next time, I will know better….and choose a nude or charcoal underpinning. It wasn’t Awful…not a faux pas or anything….it’s just that I prefer the look of a color other than white. I wouldn’t know that I felt that way if I didn’t wear it that way and decide I didn’t like it after all.
I am going to take this opportunity to remind you to go shopping in your closet…this next week! Wear those clothes that you haven’t had a chance to wear yet….make them favorites…it’s not too late! I think you will be glad that you did! Then, when I get the collection back in October, you will be ready for some new looks! Ready to try some New Looks. I’m sure of it! Fall Fashion 2016 is bold and different from what we already have. Come see what’s new….and be ready to try some new things!
Please comment & share your thoughts about style & fashion!!