I hear it all the time!
Is it OK to wear Black in August?? Is it OK to wear White after Labor Day?? What is a girl to do??
The short answer is YES!! To both queries!
Just recently we have attended 2 funerals…never a happy thought. As we were preparing to make the trips to these events I had the same old problem….what should I wear? Do I really have to wear Black to a funeral these days?? I think not! Does Harry really have to wear a dark suit?? Probably not! But, on the other hand I have a great Black dress that I love, so why not wear it? Then Harry decided that he would wear his dark suit after all, even tho it was supposed to be about 100 degrees that day!
So, we both dressed like we were taught to, and we both wore dark clothes to the funeral….both of them. And…it’s a good thing. Because at both events, everyone, pretty much Everyone…..was wearing Black! I feel compelled to mention this because I would have told you that these days, it really doesn’t matter so much what you wear….we are just happy that you get to where you are going. But, I was wrong! Definitely! So, if you have an occasion to wear a little black dress….embrace it, and wear it! No matter the temperature outside. I am confident at the end of the day you will be able to say….I am so glad that I took her advice and I wore my black dress today! It was the perfect thing…..and I wore it everywhere I went, all day long!
As for the white after Labor Day??? Again, the short answer is YES! Altho there is a BIG BUT…! They must be stain free and relatively new white pants! Think about this…..your favorite white pants, and your favorite black top and a fabulous necklace? Or your favorite black pants that you haven’t worn in a while and a GREAT, new, beautiful, white blouse. It’s a great look…for pretty everyone and for pretty much anywhere.
Black & White is still probably the most used …. and most comfortable look for any season, but especially for in between seasons….wherever you live!
This is a perfect example!
I wore my NEW dress from Fall 2017 the other day.
I loved it! Comfortable, New, Snazzy…all in all, GOOD. Until I looked at the picture!! As you can see…I neglected the lingerie keepers!!! Oh No!! Now I have a perfect reminder….a pic of what I shouldn’t do!! (Ugh!)
This is a perfect reason to wear our clothes often!! That way we can practice how we like them BEST. If we rarely wear our clothes we won’t have the chance to get the best use out of them…..and we won’t discover how we like them BEST!
Hopefully, next time I wear this dress I will look in the mirror before I walk out the door!
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It only works for us, if it is comfortable enough to wear All Day Long…and takes us to all the places we want to go! And…when we want to feel Cool when we wear it! I mean … Cool….as in edgy, smart, sassy …as in it puts a bounce in my step! I’m confident that I look fine…because I feel good. That means things like…I like the fabric…it feels good on my skin. It might mean that I like the color….try something New To You. Forget the old….I can’t wear stripes! Or I never wear Yellow! Try it, you might like it!
We reach a time in our lives when maybe we feel invisible. Do you ever feel that way? I often hear that from my clients. If so…try something new! It can be as simple as a new pair of pants….a pretty scarf…or a blouse with a lot of pattern! Or…a new pair of shoes! Not too far out….but something that’s New To You, and comfortable enough to wear all day long. You will notice that people begin to compliment you….and that feels so Good! of course when someone compliments you you know she/he has noticed you!
Speaking of compliments!! They are a great, and they are a Free, Source of Energy! Think about it! A compliment is a Win/Win! It’s makes the complimentee feel good, of course! But, it also makes the complimentor feel good also! Try it! You will see what I mean! When you take the time to compliment someone, in a way, you are offering your support to her…acknowledging her. You are sharing with her that you Noticed Her….and for a lot of women that’s a Lot!
One more thing, when you do go out on a limb and choose something New that you like and you think you can wear, and you are up to at least trying it out….be sure to Wear It!! Don’t Save it for the Perfect Occasion! Do you know why? It’s simple….once you get in the habit of saving it…it will never be good enough to actually Wear! We have to wear our clothes in order for them to work their magic!! I try to make it a point to wear my new thing with in the first few days….just because! I always tell my clients….Wear It In Good Health…and Wear It Often!!
Our new things become old favorites when we Wear them! We learn to wear them here, and there, and everywhere in between….in fact to all the places we go each day.
And really what we all want is a closet full of clothes that take us to the places we go….and make us feel good when we are on the move!
Are you looking to Feel Better? Go shopping! Take a look at what is out there! Try something new! Get inspired! If you are having trouble…Call Me!! I can help you to make the right choice!
I think you will be glad you did!
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Recently we took a trip to meet up with some really good friends that we haven’t seen in such a long time! It was a Birthday Party, in Florida…
Happy Birthday Chris and Cappy!
and we had so much fun! We have known these people for most of our lives!! We knew their parents…and in some cases Grandparents! And, of course, we know their children and their spouses, and now their Grandchildren also! It’s such an amazing phenomenon, when you think about it! Think about it this way….how many generations do you know of your closest friends!?! Probably not that many! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again! 🙂
We are the Lucky Ones….!
Actually, we had a lot of fun during our short visit talking about ME….and my BLOG! Imagine that?!? Everyone we saw has not subscribed to BBDStyle….yet…but we still had such fun talking about…
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up
….and the rest will be History in the making.
It turns out that the women love it, and often recite to themselves….Barbara Drake says…GU.DU.SU…..but the real surprise was that the men said the same thing! The most brilliant thing about this one is….it sounds like it should be so easy….but we all know that on some days it is Really, Really Hard!
Then one of the guys said, I like the other one she says even better!! I was so surprised! Which one could he be talking about??
Dress like you are going somewhere better…later!
Of course I said!! That’s a great one too!Those of you that see me often know that I use that one a lot!
So, alas, finally it was time we all had to leave and go back to the real world! We went to pack our bags and get ready to go out to Brunch with some other friends, on our way to our next stop. As we rode down the elevator we thought everyone else had already left….but, not so! As we stepped out of the elevator into the lobby the birthday girl exclaimed….OMG! Are You Going Somewhere Better…Next!?! 🙂 And I immediately got it! Well, I thought….That’s for me to know….and for you to find out, I guess!! 🙂
So if you haven’t tried it yet….think about it this way….keep them guessing!! What are you doing?? Where are you going?? If you dress like you are going somewhere important….you will keep them all guessing! How fun is that!? It’s easy….and comfortable….to be well dressed when you have the right tools!! Think of your clothes as your “tools”….and think of your favorite tools as your Doncaster clothes!!
I have the Fall 2017 here at home if you can come see what’s new, please call me! This is a great time to shop….
If you travel a lot, or have the grandkids come to visit Wisconsin in the Summertime…
If you have a busy schedule, and find you can take a break NOW…
If you are a Fashionista at heart and want to see and take advantage of the Next New Thing!
Call me if you can make it! You will be glad you did!
I had such fun! I’ve just finished up SHOWTIME! for Spring & Summer 2017. It was so much fun to see so many friends….some that I see regularly, and some that I hardly ever see! I just love my job! 🙂
But the most surprising thing was how many people told me ….”I’m trying to add navy to my closet”! Remember?? You might remember … That was my advice in the last newsletter that I wrote! It was cute the first time, and in fact almost went over my head! Yet by the time I transferred the clothes to the next person I had heard the same thing from soooooo many people! How fun is that!?
Do you have a problem/dilemma that you can’t solve in your closet? Let me know! And I will try to shed some light on a way to tackle that problem! I guess that my biggest problem is making sure that there is Nothing in my closet that I can’t wear … right now! Everything should be fixed, clean, fit!, and make me feel good when I put it on!
They say, Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal! I don’t want to waste my time with clothes that don’t work for me anymore! They just aren’t good enough. The things in my closet have to take me to the places that I go to. If they don’t make me feel good when I put them on, then I figure that I just don’t need them any more…they just aren’t good enough! It’s too hard to Fall in Love with Your Life ….when your pants don’t fit!
So… start being selective! Be Discriminating! If your pants don’t fit, aren’t comfortable…don’t make you feel good….separate from them right then and there. Keep a shopping bag in the bottom of your closet. If you can’t wait to get out of those pants, put them right into that bag when you take them off…and share them with a charity that will make sure they get connected to someone that can really Use Them!
You will be SO GLAD that you did!
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Oh No! I have nothing to wear!
Now, those of you that know me well….know that couldn’t be true! What, You Say?!?
I guess it is more about the fact that I am so tired of wearing the same, old thing! (I could Scream!!) I get up, go to my closet … I can’t decide what to wear….so I choose the same, old thing I wore yesterday…and maybe even the day before that!! What am I thinking??? Whatever ever happened to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….And the Rest Will Be History!? (My mantra?!?) The last time this happened I made a promise to myself….I’m going shopping in my closet! Today! No more wearing the same thing every day, just because it is easier!
So, I did it! I got up and noticed, immediately, that it was a bright & sunny day, a rare occurrence in early February in Wisconsin! I went into my closet and chose something that was right there and I haven’t really worn it since Christmas. Today is the day! I chose the beautiful red, silk blouse, and favorite necklace….so then I decided it was alright to wear my favorite black pants! Some red lipstick…and I was out the door! A few years ago I started a Lunch Bunch group with 2 other ladies named Barbara. Oddly enough we even have last names that begin with D, so we call ourselves BD3…BD Cubed! And just by coincidence, that day was Go Red for Women Day! And I had on my Red Silk Blouse! As it turned out, it was so much fun! Sometimes we have 4 or 5 ladies show up, and this day we had about 12! It was wonderful!
So, here is the learning….I could so easily have stayed in my “same old” rut, but I took my own advice…to GU.DU.&SU. (get it?)…and I am So Glad That I Did! Everything was better. It sounds crazy, I know….but it works. I dare you…Try It….and see for yourself!
So, now that I have had a few days of dressing up….well, maybe not Up, but at least better….I am even getting myself into some of my new Spring 2017 things. On purpose, when I was shopping last with the current Doncaster Collection I chose things that are transitional, that I can wear early in the season when I am Really feeling the need to have some NEW looks. So, now….it is time to Wear Them! Remember, Wear them in good health…and wear them often! That is how we become comfortable in our newer things and embrace all the good things that will come our way because we are well dressed!
So, try it for yourself. Accept the challenge! You will be so glad that you did!!
If you need some inspiration go to Doncaster.com and check it out!? I’m confident you will find some things to perk up your closet! And, you will be glad that you did!
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One of the really good things about January is that it’s a great time to go to the movies.
There is a great movie out there right now, in fact it just opened, Hidden Figures. It is a story based on fact. It takes place in the South in the 60’s and it is the story of how 3 women, 3 black women, changed the course of history in the space race in the 1960’s. You see these women were mathematical geniuses…for real! They knew each other personally, they grew up in the same era so they were all familiar with what and where women were expected or allowed to do, and were all aware of the race relations and the mores of the time. But, in spite of all the difficult obstacles each one found her way to thrive…not just survive!
I loved the women! They were smart and they were kind. They were patient, with each other and with their circumstances. They were, each of them, always well dressed. It was very obvious that they respected themselves enough to make the effort to be well dressed as a regular habit. It was obvious from their appearance that they respected themselves and therefore earned the respect of others around them. Each woman had a different shape, like we all do, but each looked great in her wardrobe! I loved the clothes in this movie! Each one of the ladies did everything from fixing car engines (from underneath the car!), to running across the NASA campus to find a “colored Ladies Room” to preparing dinner and saying prayers with the kids. They were always, very well dressed! Even so, it took a lot of patience in order to persevere! Each was polite and well spoken, even in the most stressful circumstances. They each had plenty of obstacles….they were women…..they were brilliant mathematicians…and they were black, in the South, in the 1960’s. And they managed to persevere with strength and dignity and essentially save the US Space program. It is so ironic that the ladies were so instrumental in making John Glenn’s orbit around the earth….and the movie is released so close to the time of his death. Hmmmm…..Another amazing detail? All three of these ladies, in their 90’s now, are still alive. It’s just an amazing story! I hope you can find the time to go and see it for yourself. I think it will get you thinking too.
So, the moral of the story….you have heard me say it before….
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….and the rest will be history!
Use this time to clean out your closets… Think Out with the old!! In with the New!! This is a great time of year to pare down to the favorite “old favorites” so that when you are so inclined you will embrace adding some pretty New Looks to your wardrobe! If you need some inspiration come see me at SHOWTIME!…next week!
The Doncaster Collection Spring 2017
Petites, Misses, Womens
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
I will look forward to seeing YOU!
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I am sure I am not the only one that is happy to say goodbye to 2016…and Hello to 2017!
2017! The Best is yet to Come!
The sky is blue…it’s cold…but oh well! After all, we live in Wisconsin!
This is a great time to go thru your closet and find some things that you haven’t worn in a while, get them out and wear them! If you don’t love how they Feel, that means it is OK to part with them and move on. Take an inventory of your closet! Do you like what you see? Do the black pants fit? The way you want them to? If not, take them and put them in a bag for Goodwill…or a Woman’s Shelter near you… right away! Don’t spend a lot of time talking yourself into why you should them this year! If your sweaters are worn and piling, part with them! Add some pretty colors to your collection. It will perk up your day….and those around you! Take stock every week or so….keep the give away bag in the corner of the closet until it is full. And then find another bag that does have room for some more things. Be relentless!! Ruthless, even!
Spring is the best time for a lot of us to buy knits. Why, you ask? Because of the fabrication. Generally there is not much wool in the knit during this season. I have a lot of clients that can’t wear wool…too many allergies, and too itchy to wear on dry, flaky skin. Think about replenishing now! Besides, the colors are generally are so pretty! That alone will put a bounce in your step…even on the coldest day!
If 2017 is going to be the Best One Yet….Let’s be sure to dress for it! Anticipate success when you Dress like you know what you are doing! And be prepared to work your very own magic! Be prepared to THRIVE! Because there is every reason to believe that you will!
Be sure to save some time to come by and see me and the Doncaster Spring 2017 Collection!
January 19 -21, 2017, Thursday & Friday 10-7pm, Saturday til 2pm
Woman’s Club of Wisconsin, 813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
2017! The Best One Yet!!
It is that time of year! The Holidays are here!
This is the time to get out your favorite clothes….first, to find them….and then to wear them!
Wear them in good health…and wear them Often!
Whether you are going out for coffee or having lunch with the girls…or out for drinks with friends….be the one that is in the spirit…in the moment…anticipating Christmas. It doesn’t mean that you have to wear Red or Green! Or to wear an Ugly Christmas Sweater, to coin a phrase! Choose the things you love! Gold lame maybe? A favorite necklace? A little sparkle in your blush? Extra red lipstick maybe? Make it a point to use this very special time of year to connect with old friends and with new! Be the sparkle that everyone is looking for about now! It will raise your spirits…and those of the people around you.
Do you want to fit in…or to stand out?
This time of year, think about being the one that stands out!
There is plenty of time next year to fit in!
We are Wishing you a
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
and…hoping for Peace on Earth in 2017!
Heads Up for…Mark your calendar now!
Doncaster Spring 2017!
Thursday, Friday, Saturday
January 19, 20, 21
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin
813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
Barbara & Harry Drake
I think sometimes we get in our own way! Why do we do that…?
Think of it this way….if you agree to do something new…agree to give it your BEST shot! What do you have to do to make people believe that you will be successful at this new venture. And then think….what Else can you do?? To make it Better!?! Give it your best shot…and then some! Why? Because that is how you will know that it is the right thing for you, or not. If you don’t give it your best, from the “Get-Go”, then you really will not know if it was really the right thing for you or not? You might limp along, doing your thing….but if you don’t give it your ALL you will never know what the real ending could be! Maybe you will have lack luster success, which would be fine, under certain circumstances. But how would you feel if you found out a year later…or 2 maybe….that if you had done one more thing you might have been GREAT!
Success breeds success….I didn’t make that up! But, the opposite is true also….lackluster performance brings lackluster results. Lackluster is fine….in fact, lackluster is great for some people! But what if you could have done one more thing, and have success from the outset? Then it would follow that you would have wild success!! After all….Success Breeds Success, right!? Give it your best shot! From the beginning! So the success can multiply!! That way if something else presents itself to you, you can have a better shot at making smart decisions about which direction to take at the next fork in the road.
When I started my business, I was invited to an event to learn about something new….Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12. I didn’t know the people that invited me, I didn’t know who else was going, and I wasn’t looking for a job! But I was curious to see what it was all about….so I said YES! I am proud to say that it has turned out to be a Great Opportunity for me! I have met wonderful women….and men! I have been places and done things I never thought of doing. And it has all been a result of saying YEP…I’ll try it! And I did! I jumped in both feet first and gave it my best effort! I have the luxury of being proud of what I have done, because I believe that I have done the best I can….and the results have been GREAT! Of course, some seasons are better than others….but ultimately I can live with the results because I believe that I did the best I could.
It is easier to be the best you can be if you dress like you mean it. Don’t be afraid to be the best dressed woman in the room. The other people in the room will be so mad at themselves for wearing the same old same old black bottoms! Just trust me….and believe it! Because it is true! This is the perfect time to try it out…..it’s the HOLIDAYS. Wear something different…something new….something that you like….and that you haven’t worn in a bit. It’s the perfect opportunity to shine! If someone approaches you and says…what are you wearing??!! And why are you wearing it?? You can tell them that I told you to!
Dress Well. It will help you to FEEL Better! And THRIVE!!!!!!
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