Do you, or did you, have a mentor? Someone who touched your life …. sometimes when you weren’t even looking?! Or maybe you are a mentor, and you don’t even know it!? Think about that for a minute.
Not too long ago Harry and I were talking about my early days with Doncaster. I guess it was around 9/11. It’s such an emotional time….for most off us I think. But for me it was early in October of 2001 that I bumped into the Doncaster opportunity. A lot of you already know this story, but some don’t! I was invited to a luncheon downtown, at the best hotel, by people I didn’t know, some inform out of town, to hear about something I had never heard of, and for some reason I said YES! There was something about the people and the opportunity and the way they presented the opportunity that intrigued me. I wanted to know more.
What I didn’t understand at the time, was how important those women….and a couple of men….would be in my life from that day forward. They inspired me along the way, over the years…..to do one more thing and make a difference. And you know what?? I did! I loved my job! As it turned out, I was really good at it! And I learned so much….from these people that I just, almost literally, bumped into. What if I had not said YES to that luncheon event??
Jackie, JoAnn, Susan and Dave,….and Al, too. They taught by example. At that time everything about the business was new to me. I knew NOTHING! They taught me things like…..
Clean out your closet and Dress Well. You don’t need a lot if what you do have fits and takes you to the places you want to go to.
Be that woman you WANT to be. Let your wardrobe help you and give you the confidence to be the Best You Can Be.
Be Smart. Meet new people and tell them what you do….there is every chance that they will want to know more.
Be smart again…things cost what they cost. Accept it, pay for it and move on. Don’t waste a lot of energy fussing about the price. If it isn’t valuable enough for you to pay for it, then it probably isn’t valuable enough….so you probably don’t need it.
Once more, Be Smart. Save your energy to do the things that you love, the things that you do best, and find other people to help you out by doing the things that you need help with. We can’t do everything, even if we want to, so find people you can rely on to help you out….and use their expertise….to show you the way!
And….nobody is perfect! What we all want is to accentuate the positive. Find ways for those people around you, and close to you, to accentuate the attributes that they do have. Their issues might not be the same as yours….but you can rest assured that they do have issues they want to camouflage. How do I know that?? Because I know, my mentors taught me, that everyone has something!
So, life goes on….life patterns change…..opportunities arise…..and, life goes on. It has been a long time since we all have seen each other…..but it doesn’t mean that we don’t think of one another and love the good old days when we all worked together….doing different things, showing each other the way…..to great success. The funny thing is, I bet those good old friends/mentors of mine were not even aware of the impression they made on my life. How my life has been altered in all kinds of ways because I call them friends. So ask yourself….who is my mentor/mentors?
The more interesting question is: who am I mentoring today, that I might not even know it? Hmmm…I wonder?!
Why now?? Why am I pondering these life choices now, so many years later?? Well, one of my good old friends passed away last week. And although I haven’t seen her in A Very Long Time, I’m going to miss her. I never got the chance to say Thank You…..for showing me the way.
Let us “raise a glass” to those giants that walked before us….those men and women that showed us the way. Let’s vow to be the best we can be for the young people coming up behind us. Next time you think….Who cares what I think? Who cares what I’m wearing? I’m not going anywhere important so “Who Cares”? Think about who might be watching you….that you don’t even know about.
Make it a great day!
It’s time to start thinking about putting away the pink, orange, yellow and spring green favorites that we have been wearing all Spring and Summer! It’s not that the weather has turned, it will still be warm (maybe even HOT) for a while.
For the last twenty (or so!) years I have been beginning to wear my new Fall clothes in July….because I was selling Fall!! When I actually wear my clothes it reminds me of why I love it so much…and why I needed to sell it to YOU…so you can appreciate the features and benefits too! 🙂
So, here we are, mid-August, and even I am still wearing pink and green!! So, I am going to promise that by next week, I will modify what’s in my closet so that I will be slowly but surely nudged into wearing denim, navy, novelty prints and changing up the look that I will choose for now.
There are a few trends you will want to be aware of. Most important is our old friend…Abstract Animal Print! It’s back in a major way!! If you prefer to dabble in AAP think about adding some to your new Fall looks with a purse, a pair of updated shoes, a knit top maybe? Think of it for now anyway as a touch of Fall…..an easier transition sort of thing!
Green, in almost any shade except Kelly Green is also among the must haves for Fall 2019. Right now I am liking a Rich, Dark, Forest Green. And if you just can’t embrace any more AAP think about Army Green….maybe some Camouflage added in for a kick? My favorite for this year is a Dark, Rich, Royal Purple. I am finding that by adding a little bit of these new trends to my old favorites I am putting together lots of great outfits from the clothes that I already have that look NEW to me!
So, take a minute to take stack of what you already have, think about adding a few new things to your “Favorites Pile”…..and what those new things might be…..and Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up!! And make it a Great Day!
Generally, I recommend shopping early in the season….and paying full price for your new clothes! I always advocate for shopping for a whole look, not just a 1 piece of a look, and then wearing that look hard!! Wearing it over and over and over again…all season long! So that when the next season comes along you will be ready for some new things. I really think that this is the way to get the most out of your money….to have your clothes work for you!! Makes perfect sense doesn’t it?!?
Well, lately to everyone’s surprise I have been Sale Shopping! As it turns out, I have learned a lot! I saw some things on line that were available for 75% off….and even more!! Because they were marked down so far (75%) I decided to try a few things…denim that is! I haven’t worn denim in YEARS! I bet I haven’t bought any denim since I’ve been married!! It’s been a really, really long time ago!! And, guess what….I LOVE them! My new jeans fit perfectly, they are comfortable to wear (over and over again!)….and I am so glad that I have them in my closet!
In fact, because I love them so much I am actually considering buying another pair!! I think they are marked down even more! So, why not!?! Sale Shopping is the perfect way to add to that beautiful outfit you bought early in the season! That fabulous pair of black pants that have become must have pieces in your closet. This is the perfect opportunity to replenish those pants into your wardrobe….nobody will know if they are Sale pants….or not! What they will notice, is that you look Great!
Remember….Wear Them in Good Health, and Wear Them Often!
I decided to go ahead and try something so new, and out of my box, so to speak, because they were on Sale. I’m not sure I would have done that if they were regular price, early in the season. I tried what is a new color for me….just because….why not!
And, just one more thing! when we shop at the end of the season, and indulge in a second pair of favorite pants….and when we shop locally, we really support our local merchants and their business. It helps her to move forward and shop and plan for the next season, insuring that our favorite business will continue to be there for us to frequent!! And that is a good thing all the way around.
So, as soon as the Polar Vortex passes you by….get out there…..and Go Shopping!!! I predict that you will be glad you did!
Please comment and share your thoughts about sale shopping!! Where are your favorite sales…?!
Barbara ~ firstname.lastname@example.org
It has taken me a little while to get my arms around that! I am struck by the fact that we are living in the FUTURE!! Or almost anyway!! I think that 2020 is definitely the future….and it is practically here! Yikes!
So, I’m a little tardy with my New Years ideas. I heard a really good tip just the other day. My good friend Meg Daly ( https://mojomeg.com ) was talking about how to move forward into the New Year and rise to the occasion of setting up 2019 as a good year….maybe the best one yet!?! She suggested that we think about 2018, and the things we did, and the places that we went to, and make note of them so that we can make sure to continue to be involved in those things that bring us happiness and joy during 2019. Maybe your connection is with the cause itself, maybe it is with the people you know there, but let’s try hard to continue doing those things that, for whatever reason, make us feel good. When we feel good life is much better!
I want to add to that suggestion….that while you are doing that exercise of reviewing your 2018 calendar, think about what you WORE to those places for those variety of events. Think about this…sometimes the things we do, and really enjoy doing, are often about the experience that we share with others and about how the experience makes us feel. And what is more fun than getting up and putting on clothes that we like…just because they put a bounce in your step!?!
Get Up. Dress Up. and Show Up….And the Rest Will be History!
After all, when we get up and get dressed, in our favorites….there is a very good chance that it will be a very good day! You don’t have to be dressed up exactly, just dressed in your favorite looks….for whatever it is you are doing today. Try hard to make it a habit! I think that might be my best tip yet!?
So, here’s to 2019! Here’s hoping that it will be the best one yet….for all of us!! 🙂
And Happy New Year, too!
These last few weeks I have been busy going places and doing things with good, old friends that generally I only see at this time of year. It’s always good to connect with good friends…new and/or old!
What I have noticed recently is that lots of the people I know are changing things up for Christmas 2018. Why?? It seems like lots of us are having to modify our Christmas Traditions for their families….they have to modify the old ways/habits/traditions to accommodate everyone’s changing life patterns. It happens to all of us….it’s not necessarily bad, it’s just maybe, different. And sometimes different isn’t always easy!
Maybe your grown children have to work this Christmas?? Maybe you have one more seat at your dinner table this year. And….maybe, you have one less…and that creates a whole in your heart? Maybe your kids have moved out of town? Maybe your parents have moved to a smaller house and can’t easily accommodate the whole group the way they always did. Or maybe the Christmas Eve tradition needs to change this year to make room for church….and dinner. Because we can’t cook dinner for a crowd, even a small crowd, and be at church at the same time. We are really good at what we do….but sometimes even I have to admit that I just can’t do it all. Darn it!
The most important thing to remember this time of year….is to do the best we can to find ways that can include as many of our Christmas Traditions, and family members, and friends, as possible. If necessary maybe we can find new friends to make new traditions with? Maybe even some new places to make family favorites. Maybe we can modify our plans just enough, so that all the family can come, after all? If this year somebody just can’t make it, we will send them hugs and kisses anyway we can….and carry on.
Merry Christmas to you and your family from me and mine!