Changing times….it is so hard for us….in many ways! We can get so stuck in a look that it becomes very difficult for us to say OK, OK! I’ll try something different!!
Recently I had lunch with a friend who has had some pretty dramatic changes in her life recently…..she is quite a bit smaller than she was the last time I saw her (good for her!) But the thing that was most interesting was that she was wearing a Very Different Look! She was wearing pants, jeans even!! She looked beautiful….but so different….that I couldn’t take my eyes off her! I was stunned!
As we pursued this conversation about how different her look is today than it was 6 months ago it was so interesting! I learned that not only has her size changed, but the places she goes to have changed up quite a bit also. This woman has a busy life, so it is very important that she has a closet that works for her…. a wardrobe that takes her to a variety of places every day. Between the life pattern changes and the size change, she some how found the courage to try some new things!!! Like wearing pants! Jeans even!
It is really hard for most of us to try new things….whether they are new habits, or clothes, or a new school for the children, or a new business for Dad?? Or to send our children off to nursery school, first grade or college even! Anyone of these changes will send our lives into a very different path….which then will nudge us to try something we didn’t even think of before. As women, when someone/something in our family changes, so does our routine, a new school schedule for example….our schedule changes also. Maybe we aren’t going to the gym 3 days a week any more….or maybe we will start going more often now!?! Any of these changes will push us to try something new….maybe even a new wardrobe!?!
While we were talking about her new life the other day, it made me think that so many people I know….and I got to thinking about how hard it is for some people to change up their look. It has been a Very Long Time for lots of them!! Give yourself a push to try something new! Anything new!! A new book/author….even a new restaurant, even better if it’s in a new part of town….for you! Do you always wear pants?? Try a skirt!…?? Why?? Just because…
Being able to adapt to new things is the thing that will keep us young….at least keep us young at heart! Over the years, I have noticed that as we age, we make our lives smaller and smaller slowly, one day at a time and pretty soon our life gets very small….we don’t go to the same places….or do the same things….even with our good old friends. It’s hard to change our ways. Let’s not be that woman! Let’s commit to each other that we will try new things….and go to new places….when we can and maybe along the way we will make some new friends.
Just one more thing! It’s so important! If you do decide to try something new, give yourself permission to make a mistake!! For Pete’s Sake!! You might find that when you actually try it….you might not like it!! Maybe, if you Always wear black pants, you will consider wearing jeans….but if they don’t work out for you the way you hoped they would, put them right into the Goodwill bag! Don’t fret about that! Just move on to the next thing! It will most likely work out!
Girls Scout Motto: Make new friends, but keep the old,
One is silver and the other gold!
P.S. Just after I wrote this the other day, I snuck out to the movies: A Star is Born. If you haven’t seen it, please put it on your radar! I loved it!! I think this is a movie we want to see in the theatre because the sound is amazing! These are the lyrics from the first big number that Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga sing on stage!!!
Maybe it’s time to let the old ways die, Maybe it’s time to let the old ways die
It takes a lot to change a man,
Hell, it takes a lot to try… Maybe it’s time…
What about you??? Is it time to try something new…?!
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Try it! Make it a point to try something new to you….each day!
Today was the day for me! I had some errands to do at the Mall. It’s about a 1/2 hour away from me, so I try to plan my visits out there carefully. Besides …. I Hate going to the Mall. But, I decided to say Yes to the adventure and just do it! And, I’m so glad that I did!
The first thing I did was to return some shoes to Nordstrom. I pulled up to the area and I noticed there was a sign right in front of me that said I could text the store and someone would come out to my car to pick up my returns. I had never done that before. But, I thought…I’m going to try this. And it was that good! I saved some steps….and some energy…..and it was EASY! So I was starting to feel really good!
So, then I was feeling very brave….and decided to drive around to the other end of the Mall…and because I was in a different place than usual, I took a different route. I think it was because of that that I found the perfect parking spot for the things I wanted to do. Yeah! I am never that lucky! 🙂 As I entered the Mall, in a different location than usual, I walked right by Panera….I love cheesy bread at Panera! So I went to do my errands…..and as I was leaving…..I decided to stop and get some cheesy bread to take home! Yeah!!
By now I was feeling good and very brave!! So when I passed by Five Guys…by now it was getting to be lunchtime….I decided to stop by and have a burger and fries. Five Guys came to Milwaukee YEARS ago….and I haven’t been there since it first opened….so I decided to take the plunge and try it again. Guess What?!? I liked it! Especially the fries!! When I finished eating lunch I went to one more place….Talbots. It just so happened that they were have a great sale….I think almost everything I bought was on sale….about 90% off!! Since Doncaster died I was in serious need of some new clothes….and they were exactly the right price!! How could I resist?!?
It was a great day! I’m so glad I went….and so glad that I did some things in a new (to me!) way! It made me feel really good! Empowered even! I got my errands done in a timely fashion….I bought some foods that Harry and I love but hardly ever actually eat….and I even got some new clothes to perk up my closet. All in all it was a great day!
When was the last time you tried something new?? Can you even remember when it was? Try it! When the occasion presents itself think about my day…..think about how great I felt at the end of the day….how empowered I felt just because I did a few “usual” things a little differently than I usually do them.
Think of it this way…..Today is a Good Day for a Good Day!
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I hear it all the time!
Is it OK to wear Black in August?? Is it OK to wear White after Labor Day?? What is a girl to do??
The short answer is YES!! To both queries!
Just recently we have attended 2 funerals, never a happy thought. As we were preparing to make the trips to these events I had the same old problem….what should I wear? Do I really have to wear Black to a funeral these days?? I think not! Does Harry really have to wear a dark suit?? Probably not! But, on the other hand I have a great Black dress that I love, so why not wear it? Then Harry decided to wear his dark suit after all, even tho it was supposed to be about 100 degrees that day!
So, we both dressed like we were taught to, and we both wore dark clothes to the funeral….both of them. And…it’s a good thing. Because at both events, everyone, pretty much Everyone…..was wearing Black! I feel compelled to mention this because I would have told you that these days, it really doesn’t matter so much what you wear….we are just happy that you get to where you are going. But, I was wrong! Definitely! So, if you have an occasion to wear a little black dress….embrace it, and wear it! No matter the temperature outside. I am confident at the end of the day you will be able to say….I am so glad that I took her advice and I wore my black dress today! It was the perfect thing…..and I wore it everywhere I went, all day long!
As for the white after Labor Day??? Again, the short answer is YES! Altho there is a BIG BUT…! They must be stain free and relatively new white pants! Think about this…..your favorite white pants, and your favorite black top and a fabulous necklace? Or your favorite black pants that you haven’t worn in a while and a GREAT, new, beautiful, white blouse. It’s a great look…for pretty everyone and for pretty much anywhere.
Black & White is still probably the most used …. and most comfortable look for any season, but especially for in between seasons….wherever you live!
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I always tell my friends….we live in Wisconsin! In the Winter we go away as much as we can…..and in the summer we have Company! Yeah!
Recently we have had some Company! We love that! I told Harry that as much as I love that he volunteers to go to the store, this time I am going to go to the grocery store. Because, after all we are having Company! These days everyone eats different things! We need to get an assortment for the kids (the young parents), the babies, the grownups……It’s just not as easy as it sounds! I love my husband to pieces, but he Never veers from the list! Never! He simply couldn’t even think of shopping for this bunch!
So, I headed out for my shopping adventure!! Armed and Dangerous as they say! And I had a blast! I got some flowers, some cookies…..some of this and some of that! A couple of chicken salads, because everyone eats different things these days! Some Popsicles and Ice Cream bars, some chips!! Oh my Gosh! The grocery cart was FULL of good stuff that we haven’t had around the house in ages!
Then I got to the check out. I struggled to get the things on the counter faster than the check out lady could check them off! But, I persevered and I did it! Then….OMG!!… I got the total!! Oh Boy!!! It was $150!! I told the lady, you know my husband usually does the grocery shopping, especially lately, because I have been sick. When he comes up here he never spends more than $40!!! He comes all the time!! He always gets the same things…..and only the things on the list!! He is going to KILL me!! 🙂 It was just too much! She thought I was hilarious! So I took everything to the car and got it all loaded into the trunk…finally. I got in the car, and thought I would catch my breath and check on my messages to find out where they were, the company that is….how far away…..when they might arrive?? Should I be rushing home?? Or not?? You know….that sort of thing.
And there was a message for me! They got a late start…..so they stopped in Minoqua for coffee and snacks…..and then they were planning on stopping in Stevens Point at lunchtime….so they would see us about 3:00-3:30pm. Can you believe it??!!?? AFTER LUNCH!! It was too funny! I laughed all the way home, because I just knew I was going to be in soooo much trouble!!
But, it was really too funny!! Oh well, it’s Summer Vacation! We love our family and friends and cousins…..all our different kinds of Company! And we love to see them any time they can get here….whether it’s meal time or not!
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I think by now most of you know that I’ve been sick for a while now!!! UGH!!! As soon as I think I’m getting better something else happens….darn it! But, I think slowly, I am getting better!
I got my nails done yesterday….for the first time in 6 weeks! Oh dear…! And I have been reluctant to go and do it for a lot of reasons….including I’m not going anywhere, I’m not seeing anyone, I don’t feel good, they are really fine “au naturelle”….so why not just save the money? But, somehow, I was convinced that beautiful fingers would make me feel better. So I said OK…we’ll see. And you know what? New nails = a new me! It worked! I felt better immediately! So this morning I got up and dressed up in last years favorites…including PINK! A lot of pattern and a lot of Pink! And I am feeling better.
I am so saddened by the sudden death of Kate Spade. I am so sorry to hear of her struggles. I am a big fan of hers…..and have been for years! She was a young woman with a great idea, to design & create a purse that actually carried all the things women need to have at hand on a regular basis. She was able to pursue and develop her brand and she created an empire all her own. Such a wonderful role model for all of our young people today. Her vision, it turned out was more than purses….it turned out to be a brand that included, fashion, home goods, shoes…she left her mark on all facets of our life today. Life is hard….for everybody….on a lot of days. Everybody knows that. But I believe that for some people, some times, it is just too hard. And for those people we just need to give them peace and grace. We need to trust that when they do the unthinkable they believe they are doing the right thing. Ultimately, it’s up to them…It’s not up to us.
I guess it just goes to show that Everyone Has Something……even, maybe especially, those women that appear to have it all.
Hence, we will vow to Get Up. Dress Up. and Show Up. Why? because we can….we will get a manicure/pedicure…and we will feel better… and we will become role models and mentors to the young women that are coming up behind us…one step at a time, one day at a time.
And don’t forget…. Lipstick!!!
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What should I wear today?
It’s a common problem for all of us. We have had a lot going on around here in 2018! One of the things that is really different for me is that I am not working right now! Which means, in code :), I haven’t been shopping! It has been a few months now, and I have some irons in the fire, as they say, for the next great thing to come my way, but nothing to report just now. So, in the meantime, I wear the same old, same old…..and go “shopping” in my closet!
Over the years I have found that by the end of the season and the beginning of the next I am so D. O. N.E. with the looks of the immediate past season that I can’t wait to move forward to the next new thing….and begin wearing it, and selling it!! But, this time is different…..and I am finding some things I completely forgot about hiding in my closet! Yeah! Even some of the old favorites were hiding! And I can’t wait to start wearing them!
An important thing I have learned is that it is much easier to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up. when you are going to support causes that are dear to you and to see people that are important to you….while you are wearing clothes that you love! Getting up in the morning and choosing between this old thing and that old thing is boring….and it’s HARD! Sort out your closet and find some things that are your old favorites….and then….make a point to wear them!
This was Election week here in Milwaukee. This is the election for local positions and judgeships, grass roots kind of topics…neighborhood issues.
I challenge the fans of BBDStyle to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up for Election Day….next time you have an election in your neck of the woods! Show up to vote at your polling place. Is it old and tired? Are the chairs that the Election Judges have to sit on ALL DAY rusty and torn and dilapidated? Is the Election held in a old schoolhouse that hasn’t been visited in years and years??
Are the Judges themselves old and gray and tired? Is it hard for them to process people thru the line in a timely fashion….not because they are lazy, but because they can’t?! They can’t process what to do next quickly enough? Are we asking people to come out and vote for jobs nobody knows anything about? Or for people running unopposed….not in one category on the ballot, but for Most categories on the ballot?
It’s a disgrace! My polling place is a travesty. People all over the world envy our status as a free society….and here we have contest after contest where nobody Votes! In one contest here in town, this week, a write in candidate won her race. That is wonderful news…in fact she was my candidate….but she won with 79 votes….the opponent got 60….in the whole district! That is terrible!
When I walked into the polling place the other day I was overwhelmed with Tired…Old….Dreary…and OBSOLETE! Why would any smart, busy, successful young person ever make the time in her busy day to go there….for any reason ….. including to vote for old people who are running unopposed to jobs that no one wants.
It seems a little bit CRAZY doesn’t it!
Remember….If you stand for Nothing….What will you Fall for?
It’s Time! To Embrace Spring with what you wear! Maybe it will be a beautiful creamy cashmere sweater set? Or a Lipstick Leather jacket?
It’s time to shed the tired, old clothes that you have been wearing again and again…..day in and day out for months now! The blacks are getting faded…and are starting to look dingy and Grey! Change your look…on purpose. When was the last time you wore a suit?? Maybe you have a black or navy suit hanging in your closet that you haven’t worn in a long time? Try it! You might Like It! Or walk on the wild side and wear a color…head to toe! It can be a pastel or a bright. It doesn’t matter, it will put a bounce in your step! I know it will!
Make it a Great Day! Dress for a Great Day! And Voila!
Go to your closet and find something you love, but you can’t remember the last time you wore it! Embrace it! Add something NEW. A bracelet? A necklace?New earrings maybe?? Even a scarf that is tucked away in a drawer…remember sometimes, for some people, it’s all about baby steps to something new…especially a new Look! If it makes you feel good…WEAR IT!
Or, think of it this way…find something in a pretty COLOR….it can be a PASTEL or a pretty BOLD color! It’s Time! It can even be a pretty Print! It’s even better if it is a pretty Print sporting a black background. Try something New…To You! You will be glad you did!
And, For Pete’s Sake….don’t forget to perk up your lipstick! Change your red lipstick to Crimson, Bright Raspberry or Tangerine! And the blush….you might want to lighten that up a bit too.
Maybe it’s too early for white pants and sleeveless tops….but it isn’t too early for a Change! Embrace It!
Be the Best Woman You Can Be!!!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
I love this time of year! It’s time to ditch the Black on Black uniforms that we have been wearing pretty much non stop for the past few months! Ditch the darks….for Lipstick Reds, Pretty in Pink!….pastels as well as Hot Pink!! Such a great color for most women to wear….pretty much anytime of the year!
I live in Wisconsin! I figure if we are going to see Spring 2018….we are going to have to Wear Spring 2018!!
I went out to lunch with the girls today…our day to celebrate each other…and the advent of what will eventually be Spring….for Real! So the problem was, what to wear!?! I was debating between this one and that one….and settled on my favorite new dress and Lipstick Red Leather jacket!! I’m so glad I did! So, now I can say, definitely, When in Doubt….Wear What is New!
Since it is Valentine’s Day…we are also entrenched in the 23rd Olympic Games!! and Johnny Weir & Tara Lipinski commentating on the Figure Skating competitions! This morning I saw Johnny Weir doing a little bit on Facebook. He picked 2 lovely young women, same age, same body type, from the same town. One was a a lovely young classic, and one was a sassy, modern, edgy young woman…both from Long Island, NY. The result was interesting….they embraced their looks on each other….and both decided while they probably would not change their fashion persona, they felt they could experiment a little bit more with the kinds of things they would consider wearing.
When was the last time you considered trying something a little bit different from your usual look? Why not try something new…to you!?! I think you will be glad that you did!
Well, we made it! We survived 2017,
and ushered in 2018!
So now it is time to Spring Forward!!!
But, here is the thing…I think 2018 is so close to 2020….that I actually think of it as “practically 2020”. When I think of today as “practically 2020” I think….OMG!….We are living in the future!! For real!! How did that happen so fast?!?
So I have decided that now that we are practically living in the future we have to start thinking….”I’m Moving Forward”. No more It’s Fine. It Will Do. I Don’t Need It. The old one is good enough….they used to last forever….so they should still last forever!! Well, maybe they did …back in the day. But, they don’t now! (Whatever it is!) So it is up to all of us to jump on board this train and decide to move forward with the times and do the best we can to modify how we do things today with how we did them in 1970!! Why?? Because there is almost NO CHANCE that when 2020 comes….for real….we will be doing things just like we did in 1970!
That begins with how we dress. Because how we dress will determine how we live our lives! If we dress like we mean it…or if we dress like we respect ourselves, and our times…there is every chance people around us will treat us like women who know what we are doing. And ultimately, I think, that is what we all want. Isn’t it!?
Make some time to come and see me and what’s new for Doncaster Spring 2018! We will find you something crisp, fresh and NEW to guide you confidently in to the future! I know we will! You will be so glad you came!
It’s SHOWTIME! in Milwaukee!
Doncaster Spring 2018 Petites/Misses/Womens
@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin 1/18 – 1/20, Thursday-Saturday
@HOME 1/23-26, By Appointment!
You will be so glad you came!