One More Thing!

This was Election week here in Milwaukee. This is the election for local positions and judgeships, grass roots kind of topics…neighborhood issues.

I challenge the fans of BBDStyle to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up for Election Day….next time you have an election in your neck of the woods! Show up to vote at your polling place. Is it old and tired? Are the chairs that the Election Judges have to sit on ALL DAY rusty and torn and dilapidated? Is the Election held in a old schoolhouse that hasn’t been visited in years and years??

Are the Judges themselves old and gray and tired? Is it hard for them to process people thru the line in a timely fashion….not because they are lazy, but because they can’t?! They can’t process what to do next quickly enough? Are we asking people to come out and vote for jobs nobody knows anything about? Or for people running unopposed….not in one category on the ballot, but for Most categories on the ballot?

It’s a disgrace! My polling place is a travesty. People all over the world envy our status as a free society….and here we have contest after contest where nobody Votes! In one contest here in town, this week, a write in candidate won her race. That is wonderful news…in fact she was my candidate….but she won with 79 votes….the opponent got 60….in the whole district! That is terrible!

When I walked into the polling place the other day I was overwhelmed with Tired…Old….Dreary…and OBSOLETE! Why would any smart, busy, successful young person ever make the time in her busy day to go there….for any reason ….. including to vote for old people who are running unopposed to jobs that no one wants.

It seems a little bit CRAZY doesn’t it!

Remember….If you stand for Nothing….What will you Fall for?

 

 

 

Barbara

It’s Time!

It’s Time!  To Embrace Spring with what you wear! Maybe it will be a beautiful creamy cashmere sweater set? Or a Lipstick Leather jacket?

It’s time to shed the tired, old clothes that you have been wearing again and again…..day in and day out for months now! The blacks are getting faded…and are starting to look dingy and Grey! Change your look…on purpose. When was the last time you wore a suit?? Maybe you have a black or navy suit hanging in your closet that you haven’t worn in a long time? Try it! You might Like It! Or walk on the wild side and wear a color…head to toe! It can be a pastel or a bright. It doesn’t matter, it will put a bounce in your step! I know it will!

Make it a Great Day! Dress for a Great Day! And Voila! 

Go to your closet and find something you love, but you can’t remember the last time you wore it! Embrace it! Add something NEW. A bracelet? A necklace?New earrings maybe?? Even a scarf that is tucked away in a drawer…remember sometimes, for some people, it’s all about baby steps to something new…especially a new Look! If it makes you feel good…WEAR IT!

Or, think of it this way…find something in a pretty COLOR….it can be a PASTEL or a pretty BOLD color! It’s Time! It can even be a pretty Print! It’s even better if it is a pretty Print sporting a black background. Try something New…To You! You will be glad you did!

And, For Pete’s Sake….don’t forget to perk up your lipstick! Change your red lipstick to Crimson, Bright Raspberry or Tangerine! And the blush….you might want to lighten that up a bit too.

Maybe it’s too early for white pants and sleeveless tops….but it isn’t too early for a Change! Embrace It!

Be the Best Woman You Can Be!!!

Barbara

Our Young People!

If you stand for nothing…what will you fall for?

Alexander Hamilton

I am so taken with our young people today! I am so impressed at how well they are behaving! They are organizing themselves in such a way that they might actually be able to provoke some changes in our world today! Maybe?

I was an emotional wreck the morning of the School Walk Out! And how many schools were able to actually do it! The kids were responsible enough to come up with a plan that would likely get approved by the adults….to walk out in solidarity for the Parkland victims….coming up with a 17 minute Walk Out.

I was out to lunch that day and found myself sitting with a group of women that didn’t know each other well. What was surprising to me was that the Mom’s were lamenting that THEY wanted to walk out at the school with their children. And their children said No Mom!! This is OUR Walk Out!

I am not throwing’ away my shot! Alexander Hamilton

It reminded me of a Junior League story. The story goes something like this. They say that the Junior League of Orange County, CA did a survey on the 1960’s of the kinds of problems the school age children had at that time.  What kinds of things got the boys sent to the Principal’s Office? What kinds of things did the teachers find most difficult about the school day. The feeling was that if they could identify some of those things they might be able to brainstorm some solutions. It turned out that the most challenging problems they all faced were things like….the kid would stick a wad of chewed gum under the rim of his desk…..the boys would tease the girls….the lunchroom was a mess after the lunch break….. homework wasn’t turned in on time because “the dog ate my homework”….and one of the boys might push down a girl on the playground when playing Red Rover, Red Rover.

Today our young people struggle with things like students getting shot and sometimes Killed AT SCHOOL….sometimes, lunch at school, is the only meal a child might get, and often she has to eat alone….they oftentimes don’t know where they will sleep at night….whether their parent will be there when they get home….who will look after them…..and who will look after their siblings….they are experiencing out of control suicide statistics ….. drug addictions for themselves and for their parents and siblings. The lives of our school children today are vastly different than the lives of the students not so long ago.

So, let’s hear it for the kids! Let’s show them some alternative life styles that maybe they can grow up and learn to embrace. Let’s read to them….let’s mentor them in ways that we can….and let’s encourage them to stand up for the things that are important to them. I think they deserve it!

You Go Kids! Good luck with the March 24 Walk!

Barbara

Happy New Year!

 

 

Well, we made it! We survived 2017,

and ushered in 2018!

So now it is time to Spring Forward!!!

But, here is the thing…I think 2018 is so close to 2020….that I actually think of it as “practically 2020”. When I think of today as “practically 2020” I think….OMG!….We are living in the future!! For real!! How did that happen so fast?!?

So I have decided that now that we are practically living in the future we have to start thinking….”I’m Moving Forward”. No more It’s Fine. It Will Do. I Don’t Need It. The old one is good enough….they used to last forever….so they should still last forever!! Well, maybe they did …back in the day. But, they don’t now! (Whatever it is!) So it is up to all of us to jump on board this train and decide to move forward with the times and do the best we can to modify how we do things today with how we did them in 1970!! Why?? Because there is almost NO CHANCE that when 2020 comes….for real….we will be doing things just like we did in 1970!

That begins with how we dress. Because how we dress will determine how we live our lives! If we dress like we mean it…or if we dress like we respect ourselves, and our times…there is every chance people around us will treat us like women who know what we are doing. And ultimately, I think, that is what we all want. Isn’t it!?

Make some time to come and see me and what’s new for Doncaster Spring 2018! We will find you something crisp, fresh and NEW to guide you confidently in to the future! I know we will!  You will be so glad you came!

It’s SHOWTIME! in Milwaukee!

Doncaster Spring 2018 Petites/Misses/Womens

@Woman’s Club of Wisconsin 1/18 – 1/20, Thursday-Saturday

@HOME 1/23-26, By Appointment!

You will be so glad you came!

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What I Wear Where!?

What I Wear Where!

Recently we went to dinner with some friends that I am crazy about. The biggest problem we have is that we don’t see enough of each other! It seems like there is never enough time! I was sitting on the couch chatting with the hostess when all of a sudden, all I could think of was ‘Oh No!!’ I am wearing the same thing I wore last time we were here!! Exactly the same thing!

You see just the week before, I was meeting with a New Client, Sandra. She was new to me….and to Doncaster. She bought a dress and as she was trying it on we were talking ‘Fashionista Speak’…you know what that is right?!

Where she will wear her new dress, what shoes she will wear with it, where she is going wearing her new dress….etc. Sandra asked me/told me that she keeps a note of what she wears to which event and she asked me if I did that. I assured her that I work hard to pay close attention to what I wear, but I haven’t actually gotten around to making notes. So imagine my surprise, when I found myself in that very same situation….within the week!!! ‘Oh No!’

I guess I will have to start making notes for myself! Clearly the old habit of ‘thinking about it’ isn’t working so well for me anymore. So I reached out to her again…so, Sandra, how do you do that?! Where and how do you keep your Fashion Diary, I asked? It has to be simple. It has to be accurate. And it has to be easy to see and, therefore, to actually use! I found an old diary sort of thing I have never used….that is pretty (very important) and small-ish, also important….and I have found a perfect spot front and center in my closet! I got it all set this weekend, and already I feel so well organized!

I have decided to call it ‘What I Wear Where’! Cute isn’t it!?! Actually it is perfect timing! For the next few weeks I am happy to say that I have places to go and things to do! Everything should be much easier for me if I can quickly look up what I wore there last time I went there!

Try it. Maybe this little tip will help you to navigate your closet more effectively. We want to wear more of the clothes we already have, so that when the New Collection (Doncaster Spring 2018) becomes available we will be ready for some pretty, new, things!!

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fashion Emergency!

Last week I had a Fashion Emergency! Oh No!

I decided one day to take my own advice and wear some of the black pants that are just hanging in my closet but that I haven’t worn for ages. I decided to go for my Favorite Old pants from last year. They were my Favorites!! I put them on, I easily zipped them up (Yeah!) put on a New black top and I’m off! Or so I thought!! By the time I finished my cereal, I was fidgeting and so uncomfortable! Why? I asked myself? These pants were front zip, black knit, trim….but not skinny….and I still loved the fabric. So where did I go wrong!?!

Remember, these pants were favorites, so I was determined to keep trying to identify the problem! Maybe it isn’t the pants….maybe it’s the top? Because the top was new, I had not worn them together. Ok….I’ll change my top. that’s easy enough! So I put on another top….and alas….still not right. This time my bra straps were right there!! So, still not willing to concede that this is what happens when we try to make our favorite old things work year after year. Is it just because the styles have changed? They haven’t really changed that much….trim pants or fuller legs?? It’s pretty much your choice. In 2017 pretty much anything goes! So all right…..I’ll try one more thing…..I ended up with a white blouse, untucked, and a new cashmere cardigan with all kinds of pattern! Success!! (Thank heavens!) I felt like I could conquer my day!

 

 

 

 

So, the real learning in this little exercise? I was really irritated! If I hadn’t persevered I would have been fussy and uncomfortable all day long! And, so, it would have been so difficult to do all the things I wanted to do that day. The other thing was that it took me a really long time!! I was way behind by the time I felt like I could walk out the door! And, finally, I realized I have clients that go thru this all the time….I’m sure!! So how can I help them!?!

WEAR THEM IN GOOD HEALTH….AND WEAR THEM OFTEN!   BBD

Most of you will be very familiar with that phrase by now. We really should not keep things in our closet, to look at every day, that we do not and are not going to wear! We have enough decisions to make first thing in the morning besides mentally sort thru a closet full of clothes that we are not going to wear!! They are too small, they are too big, they are too old, and they just don’t work any more. But if they stay in the closet we have to look at them every day and consider putting them on….just because they are there.

We are important women (and men too!). We have places to go and things to do. Let’s decide to sort thru all the things in our closets and remove the things that just aren’t right for us anymore. Give them to an organization that will distribute them to people that really need them! And then we will feel better….and be able to accomplish even MORE….and the recipients, too, will be able to THRIVE!

Inspirational Be Good to Yourself

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

What a wonderful time of the year it is!?

Let’s be grateful for the life we have! For the difference we make in the cities that we live in  and the wonderful opportunities that come our way! Thank you all for all the ways you impact our world today!

This time I am going to share some of MY inspirations!

Nobody is asking any one of us to be Perfect!

What ever size we wear ….. we’re good! We can do a lot! Do not let your size define you!

And then, there is this one!

Happy Thanksgiving from our house to yours!!

Barbara

 

Wow! It’s been a crazy week!

It has been an amazing few weeks here in Milwaukee! It seems anyone that has a cause they are passionate about is having an event….some kind of event…..to share with their friends in town this week. They are all terrific causes, and they are causes that are championed by some Wonderful Women…and Men!

The week began with the Johnson Bank Financial Team sponsoring Andy Olen author of The Trilogy of YES! Andy maintains that if you want to grow your business success will come in 3 parts…..Connect, Communicate & Cooperate with the client. It’s like a 3 legged stool…we must think of them all together or we will be off balance and Fail. This last week I have been Connecting with old friends….and NEW! Now the challenge will be to Communicate with them, and tell them about what I do! And then, I will need to Cooperate with them and my company to accommodate their needs in a way that works for them! Not always easy to do!

The Women’s Fund of Greater Milwaukee sponsored a celebration of the 45th Anniversary of Title IX. When Title IX became law in 1972 it mandated inclusive opportunities for all…Men and Women. While life in 2017 is much more inclusive than it was in 1972, it isn’t where it should be. For example, do you know that in Girls Athletics, still…. while they do have an audience….the price of admission to the game is a fraction of the price per ticket as to the Boys games….and … generally, maybe not always, the concession stand is NOT OPEN…and Hot dogs and Coke are not available for sale at the Girls’ games! What??!!

Alverno College held a seminar featuring some very successful women in business in Milwaukee. The advice they shared was this…Be Open To Growth! Make it a habit to say YES! Thank you! I would love to….and see where it takes you! The practice of business in 2017 is very different than it was in 1972. The young women today will have to find their own way if they are aspiring to have a career in the C Suite!

Confidence and Leadership are muscles…you learn to use them, or you learn Not To!

Sheryl Sandberg

And, last but not least….Planned Parenthood. It is a cause that my husband and I are passionate about. We are proud of the way young women are stepping up to leadership positions of PP today are poised to make important contributions to the advocacy of safe, inclusive health care….for men and women. Female healthcare, its policies and practices, are no place for politics. Period.

 

 

 

So, here I am, at the end of the week feeling beyond proud of the accomplishments of the women of my city! They are smart, capable & successful. They are leaders in businesses of all kinds….and they are changing lives of all the people of our city in many ways…everyday.

We are role models and mentors for the young women who are coming up behind us. Whether we realize it or not, the girls coming up behind us are watching us! So, let’s make it a point to do ourselves proud. Let’s be women that Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up! And…let’s be sure we LOOK the part!

The Girls have their work cut out for them! Nothing is the same as it was in 1972! They will have to forge a new path…use new & different skills. They will have a much better chance to be successful if they forge their path….Well Dressed!

Let’s show the girls coming up behind us that we respect ourselves and each other. Let’s resolve to Dress Well!

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Universe was talking to me!

 

It happened to me last week.

I was trying to do everything!! At once!! To get caught up…and to get ahead!! And the week was speeding by! And everything seemed to be happening at once! And all of a sudden it was Thursday!! The week was almost over!

I was so upset!! All  night!! What should I wear!? To do all these different things I had scheduled!! This one is at the cleaners, this one needs to go to the cleaners!! Yikes!!! What to do!?!?! How will I do it all!?! I could wear this one….nope maybe that one…!?! And finally I fell asleep!

I got up on Friday morning bright and early. I showered, did my exercises and decided to quickly check my email before I got dressed…just to make sure I still had to Everything!

The first email I saw, was my client saying she didn’t need her new things today….it’s summer vacation!! Relax and come when you can! It’s no problem, I’m around! Hmmm……I thought. And the very next email I opened was from my good friend Meg Daly! She is a Personal Coach and always has valuable pearls of wisdom to share! Her advice to the Universe that day?? It was to ask the question….Are you making your life overly complicated!!?? Yes, I am!!! Oh No!!

So, I changed the date with my client. I went to the gym and my trainer. I came home and changed my clothes. Then I went to hostess (with an old friend and a new friend!) an important luncheon event. Then I came home, for a minute, and Harry and I went out to dinner with some friends! Phew it was a busy day! But I lived thru it!!       

And I lived thru it, well dressed!! Thank heavens for my Doncaster clothes! They take me to the places I go!! I went every where (accept to the trainer…and on some days I even go there!) dressed in Doncaster….LOVE the Miracle Pants!

The learning? Dress Well! You never know where your day will take you…and who you will meet. And…Stop…just for a minute…to listen to the Universe! There is every chance that some one , some where out there, is looking out for you, after all.

Today is a Good Day for a Good Day!

Enjoy it!

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reunions..!! Such FUN!

Doncaster Summer 2017
Recently we took a trip to meet up with some really good friends that we haven’t seen in such a long time! It was a Birthday Party, in Florida…

                          Happy Birthday Chris and Cappy!

and we had so much fun! We have known these people for most of our lives!! We knew their parents…and in some cases Grandparents! And, of course, we know their children and their spouses, and now their Grandchildren also! It’s such an amazing phenomenon, when you think about it! Think about it this way….how many generations do you know of your closest friends!?! Probably not that many! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again! 🙂

We are the Lucky Ones….!

Actually, we had a lot of fun during our short visit talking about ME….and my BLOG! Imagine that?!? Everyone we saw has not subscribed to BBDStyle….yet…but we still had such fun talking about…

Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up

….and the rest will be History in the making.

It turns out that the women love it, and often recite to themselves….Barbara Drake says…GU.DU.SU…..but the real surprise was that the men said the same thing! The most brilliant thing about this one is….it sounds like it should be so easy….but we all know that on some days it is Really, Really Hard!

Then one of the guys said, I like the other one she says even better!! I was so surprised! Which one could he be talking about??

Dress like you are going somewhere better…later!

Of course I said!! That’s a great one too!Those of you that see me often know that I use that one a lot!

So, alas, finally it was time we all had to leave and go back to the real world! We went to pack our bags and get ready to go out to Brunch with some other friends, on our way to our next stop. As we rode down the elevator we thought everyone else had already left….but, not so! As we stepped out of the elevator into the lobby the birthday girl exclaimed….OMG! Are You Going Somewhere Better…Next!?! 🙂 And I immediately got it! Well, I thought….That’s for me to know….and for you to find out, I guess!! 🙂

So if you haven’t tried it yet….think about it this way….keep them guessing!! What are you doing?? Where are you going?? If you dress like you are going somewhere important….you will keep them all guessing! How fun is that!? It’s easy….and comfortable….to be well dressed when you have the right tools!! Think of your clothes as your “tools”….and think of your favorite tools as your Doncaster clothes!!

I have the Fall 2017 here at home if you can come see what’s new, please call me! This is a great time to shop….

  1. If you travel a lot, or have the grandkids come to visit Wisconsin in the Summertime…

  2.  If you have a busy schedule, and find you can take a break NOW…

  3. If you are a Fashionista at heart and want to see and take advantage of the Next New Thing!

Call me if you can make it! You will be glad you did!

Barbara