What I Wear Where!
Recently we went to dinner with some friends that I am crazy about. The biggest problem we have is that we don’t see enough of each other! It seems like there is never enough time! I was sitting on the couch chatting with the hostess when all of a sudden, all I could think of was ‘Oh No!!’ I am wearing the same thing I wore last time we were here!! Exactly the same thing!
You see just the week before, I was meeting with a New Client, Sandra. She was new to me….and to Doncaster. She bought a dress and as she was trying it on we were talking ‘Fashionista Speak’…you know what that is right?!
Where she will wear her new dress, what shoes she will wear with it, where she is going wearing her new dress….etc. Sandra asked me/told me that she keeps a note of what she wears to which event and she asked me if I did that. I assured her that I work hard to pay close attention to what I wear, but I haven’t actually gotten around to making notes. So imagine my surprise, when I found myself in that very same situation….within the week!!! ‘Oh No!’
I guess I will have to start making notes for myself! Clearly the old habit of ‘thinking about it’ isn’t working so well for me anymore. So I reached out to her again…so, Sandra, how do you do that?! Where and how do you keep your Fashion Diary, I asked? It has to be simple. It has to be accurate. And it has to be easy to see and, therefore, to actually use! I found an old diary sort of thing I have never used….that is pretty (very important) and small-ish, also important….and I have found a perfect spot front and center in my closet! I got it all set this weekend, and already I feel so well organized!
I have decided to call it ‘What I Wear Where’! Cute isn’t it!?! Actually it is perfect timing! For the next few weeks I am happy to say that I have places to go and things to do! Everything should be much easier for me if I can quickly look up what I wore there last time I went there!
Try it. Maybe this little tip will help you to navigate your closet more effectively. We want to wear more of the clothes we already have, so that when the New Collection (Doncaster Spring 2018) becomes available we will be ready for some pretty, new, things!!
It has been an amazing few weeks here in Milwaukee! It seems anyone that has a cause they are passionate about is having an event….some kind of event…..to share with their friends in town this week. They are all terrific causes, and they are causes that are championed by some Wonderful Women…and Men!
The week began with the Johnson Bank Financial Team sponsoring Andy Olen author of The Trilogy of YES! Andy maintains that if you want to grow your business success will come in 3 parts…..Connect, Communicate & Cooperate with the client. It’s like a 3 legged stool…we must think of them all together or we will be off balance and Fail. This last week I have been Connecting with old friends….and NEW! Now the challenge will be to Communicate with them, and tell them about what I do! And then, I will need to Cooperate with them and my company to accommodate their needs in a way that works for them! Not always easy to do!
The Women’s Fund of Greater Milwaukee sponsored a celebration of the 45th Anniversary of Title IX. When Title IX became law in 1972 it mandated inclusive opportunities for all…Men and Women. While life in 2017 is much more inclusive than it was in 1972, it isn’t where it should be. For example, do you know that in Girls Athletics, still…. while they do have an audience….the price of admission to the game is a fraction of the price per ticket as to the Boys games….and … generally, maybe not always, the concession stand is NOT OPEN…and Hot dogs and Coke are not available for sale at the Girls’ games! What??!!
Alverno College held a seminar featuring some very successful women in business in Milwaukee. The advice they shared was this…Be Open To Growth! Make it a habit to say YES! Thank you! I would love to….and see where it takes you! The practice of business in 2017 is very different than it was in 1972. The young women today will have to find their own way if they are aspiring to have a career in the C Suite!
Confidence and Leadership are muscles…you learn to use them, or you learn Not To!
And, last but not least….Planned Parenthood. It is a cause that my husband and I are passionate about. We are proud of the way young women are stepping up to leadership positions of PP today are poised to make important contributions to the advocacy of safe, inclusive health care….for men and women. Female healthcare, its policies and practices, are no place for politics. Period.
So, here I am, at the end of the week feeling beyond proud of the accomplishments of the women of my city! They are smart, capable & successful. They are leaders in businesses of all kinds….and they are changing lives of all the people of our city in many ways…everyday.
We are role models and mentors for the young women who are coming up behind us. Whether we realize it or not, the girls coming up behind us are watching us! So, let’s make it a point to do ourselves proud. Let’s be women that Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up! And…let’s be sure we LOOK the part!
The Girls have their work cut out for them! Nothing is the same as it was in 1972! They will have to forge a new path…use new & different skills. They will have a much better chance to be successful if they forge their path….Well Dressed!
Let’s show the girls coming up behind us that we respect ourselves and each other. Let’s resolve to Dress Well!
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This week! We are up and ready for YOU!
Come see us….and what’s new!
And, remember….Dress Like You Are Going Somewhere Better Later!
It’s time to have a Mission to Transition our closets to prepare for Fall…for real! I decided this morning…it’s about that time…for me to transition my own closet to Fall! It’s time to clean out the closet….re examine the black pants…spruce up my look for Fall! I’m on it!
As I look over my closet (specifically, black pants!) I notice that some of those pants I have had for awhile now. They look really different from the pants I have bought recently. Hmmm…..they might not make the cut!?
Be particular! Be relentless! Don’t keep them just because at some point you Had to have them, so you bought them!
If you have trouble separating from your old clothes…think of it this way. Share them with people who don’t have any black pants…and need some! Some ideas for repurposing your old things?? Goodwill, your church, a charity in your area, maybe?? They will love to have them!! Your cast offs are likely to be Life Changing for Someone!
I want to take a minute and share just some of the great notes I have recently received! They motivated me to transition to Fall, maybe they will help you to adopt the Mission to Transition!?!
…..I looked thru closets and found several black sweaters and a nice silk jersey turtleneck, so have black. (I also cleaned out all my closets and feel just great and in control)😷. Thurs. I am devoting the day to trying on ALL my pants and eliminating any that don’t fit right.
I truely feel good. MS
….I wore my new dress to the opening cocktail party at (the club) Saturday night. It was such a treat to wear – so great looking and as comfortable as a bathrobe! I got many compliments, including one from a most attractive young woman who said she was taking note of the best looking dresses at the party and mine was in the top 10😀 Thank you Barbara!…..SU
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It happened to me last week.
I was trying to do everything!! At once!! To get caught up…and to get ahead!! And the week was speeding by! And everything seemed to be happening at once! And all of a sudden it was Thursday!! The week was almost over!
I was so upset!! All night!! What should I wear!? To do all these different things I had scheduled!! This one is at the cleaners, this one needs to go to the cleaners!! Yikes!!! What to do!?!?! How will I do it all!?! I could wear this one….nope maybe that one…!?! And finally I fell asleep!
I got up on Friday morning bright and early. I showered, did my exercises and decided to quickly check my email before I got dressed…just to make sure I still had to Everything!
The first email I saw, was my client saying she didn’t need her new things today….it’s summer vacation!! Relax and come when you can! It’s no problem, I’m around! Hmmm……I thought. And the very next email I opened was from my good friend Meg Daly! She is a Personal Coach and always has valuable pearls of wisdom to share! Her advice to the Universe that day?? It was to ask the question….Are you making your life overly complicated!!?? Yes, I am!!! Oh No!!
So, I changed the date with my client. I went to the gym and my trainer. I came home and changed my clothes. Then I went to hostess (with an old friend and a new friend!) an important luncheon event. Then I came home, for a minute, and Harry and I went out to dinner with some friends! Phew it was a busy day! But I lived thru it!!
And I lived thru it, well dressed!! Thank heavens for my Doncaster clothes! They take me to the places I go!! I went every where (accept to the trainer…and on some days I even go there!) dressed in Doncaster….LOVE the Miracle Pants!
The learning? Dress Well! You never know where your day will take you…and who you will meet. And…Stop…just for a minute…to listen to the Universe! There is every chance that some one , some where out there, is looking out for you, after all.
Today is a Good Day for a Good Day!
It only works for us, if it is comfortable enough to wear All Day Long…and takes us to all the places we want to go! And…when we want to feel Cool when we wear it! I mean … Cool….as in edgy, smart, sassy …as in it puts a bounce in my step! I’m confident that I look fine…because I feel good. That means things like…I like the fabric…it feels good on my skin. It might mean that I like the color….try something New To You. Forget the old….I can’t wear stripes! Or I never wear Yellow! Try it, you might like it!
We reach a time in our lives when maybe we feel invisible. Do you ever feel that way? I often hear that from my clients. If so…try something new! It can be as simple as a new pair of pants….a pretty scarf…or a blouse with a lot of pattern! Or…a new pair of shoes! Not too far out….but something that’s New To You, and comfortable enough to wear all day long. You will notice that people begin to compliment you….and that feels so Good! of course when someone compliments you you know she/he has noticed you!
Speaking of compliments!! They are a great, and they are a Free, Source of Energy! Think about it! A compliment is a Win/Win! It’s makes the complimentee feel good, of course! But, it also makes the complimentor feel good also! Try it! You will see what I mean! When you take the time to compliment someone, in a way, you are offering your support to her…acknowledging her. You are sharing with her that you Noticed Her….and for a lot of women that’s a Lot!
One more thing, when you do go out on a limb and choose something New that you like and you think you can wear, and you are up to at least trying it out….be sure to Wear It!! Don’t Save it for the Perfect Occasion! Do you know why? It’s simple….once you get in the habit of saving it…it will never be good enough to actually Wear! We have to wear our clothes in order for them to work their magic!! I try to make it a point to wear my new thing with in the first few days….just because! I always tell my clients….Wear It In Good Health…and Wear It Often!!
Our new things become old favorites when we Wear them! We learn to wear them here, and there, and everywhere in between….in fact to all the places we go each day.
And really what we all want is a closet full of clothes that take us to the places we go….and make us feel good when we are on the move!
Are you looking to Feel Better? Go shopping! Take a look at what is out there! Try something new! Get inspired! If you are having trouble…Call Me!! I can help you to make the right choice!
I think you will be glad you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts about style & fashion!!
Recently we took a trip to meet up with some really good friends that we haven’t seen in such a long time! It was a Birthday Party, in Florida…
Happy Birthday Chris and Cappy!
and we had so much fun! We have known these people for most of our lives!! We knew their parents…and in some cases Grandparents! And, of course, we know their children and their spouses, and now their Grandchildren also! It’s such an amazing phenomenon, when you think about it! Think about it this way….how many generations do you know of your closest friends!?! Probably not that many! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again! 🙂
We are the Lucky Ones….!
Actually, we had a lot of fun during our short visit talking about ME….and my BLOG! Imagine that?!? Everyone we saw has not subscribed to BBDStyle….yet…but we still had such fun talking about…
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up
….and the rest will be History in the making.
It turns out that the women love it, and often recite to themselves….Barbara Drake says…GU.DU.SU…..but the real surprise was that the men said the same thing! The most brilliant thing about this one is….it sounds like it should be so easy….but we all know that on some days it is Really, Really Hard!
Then one of the guys said, I like the other one she says even better!! I was so surprised! Which one could he be talking about??
Dress like you are going somewhere better…later!
Of course I said!! That’s a great one too!Those of you that see me often know that I use that one a lot!
So, alas, finally it was time we all had to leave and go back to the real world! We went to pack our bags and get ready to go out to Brunch with some other friends, on our way to our next stop. As we rode down the elevator we thought everyone else had already left….but, not so! As we stepped out of the elevator into the lobby the birthday girl exclaimed….OMG! Are You Going Somewhere Better…Next!?! 🙂 And I immediately got it! Well, I thought….That’s for me to know….and for you to find out, I guess!! 🙂
So if you haven’t tried it yet….think about it this way….keep them guessing!! What are you doing?? Where are you going?? If you dress like you are going somewhere important….you will keep them all guessing! How fun is that!? It’s easy….and comfortable….to be well dressed when you have the right tools!! Think of your clothes as your “tools”….and think of your favorite tools as your Doncaster clothes!!
I have the Fall 2017 here at home if you can come see what’s new, please call me! This is a great time to shop….
If you travel a lot, or have the grandkids come to visit Wisconsin in the Summertime…
If you have a busy schedule, and find you can take a break NOW…
If you are a Fashionista at heart and want to see and take advantage of the Next New Thing!
Call me if you can make it! You will be glad you did!
… after reading my recent post…..that I am going to concentrate on being grateful for all the things I Can Do….and stop beating myself up for the things I can’t do!!
And what we can all do is to Get Up. Dress Up. Show Up …and make some History! And fingers crossed, it will be all good!
So, are you with me…?! 🙂
Please comment & share your thoughts!
I had such fun! I’ve just finished up SHOWTIME! for Spring & Summer 2017. It was so much fun to see so many friends….some that I see regularly, and some that I hardly ever see! I just love my job! 🙂
But the most surprising thing was how many people told me ….”I’m trying to add navy to my closet”! Remember?? You might remember … That was my advice in the last newsletter that I wrote! It was cute the first time, and in fact almost went over my head! Yet by the time I transferred the clothes to the next person I had heard the same thing from soooooo many people! How fun is that!?
Do you have a problem/dilemma that you can’t solve in your closet? Let me know! And I will try to shed some light on a way to tackle that problem! I guess that my biggest problem is making sure that there is Nothing in my closet that I can’t wear … right now! Everything should be fixed, clean, fit!, and make me feel good when I put it on!
They say, Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal! I don’t want to waste my time with clothes that don’t work for me anymore! They just aren’t good enough. The things in my closet have to take me to the places that I go to. If they don’t make me feel good when I put them on, then I figure that I just don’t need them any more…they just aren’t good enough! It’s too hard to Fall in Love with Your Life ….when your pants don’t fit!
So… start being selective! Be Discriminating! If your pants don’t fit, aren’t comfortable…don’t make you feel good….separate from them right then and there. Keep a shopping bag in the bottom of your closet. If you can’t wait to get out of those pants, put them right into that bag when you take them off…and share them with a charity that will make sure they get connected to someone that can really Use Them!
You will be SO GLAD that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts!
Oh No! I have nothing to wear!
Now, those of you that know me well….know that couldn’t be true! What, You Say?!?
I guess it is more about the fact that I am so tired of wearing the same, old thing! (I could Scream!!) I get up, go to my closet … I can’t decide what to wear….so I choose the same, old thing I wore yesterday…and maybe even the day before that!! What am I thinking??? Whatever ever happened to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….And the Rest Will Be History!? (My mantra?!?) The last time this happened I made a promise to myself….I’m going shopping in my closet! Today! No more wearing the same thing every day, just because it is easier!
So, I did it! I got up and noticed, immediately, that it was a bright & sunny day, a rare occurrence in early February in Wisconsin! I went into my closet and chose something that was right there and I haven’t really worn it since Christmas. Today is the day! I chose the beautiful red, silk blouse, and favorite necklace….so then I decided it was alright to wear my favorite black pants! Some red lipstick…and I was out the door! A few years ago I started a Lunch Bunch group with 2 other ladies named Barbara. Oddly enough we even have last names that begin with D, so we call ourselves BD3…BD Cubed! And just by coincidence, that day was Go Red for Women Day! And I had on my Red Silk Blouse! As it turned out, it was so much fun! Sometimes we have 4 or 5 ladies show up, and this day we had about 12! It was wonderful!
So, here is the learning….I could so easily have stayed in my “same old” rut, but I took my own advice…to GU.DU.&SU. (get it?)…and I am So Glad That I Did! Everything was better. It sounds crazy, I know….but it works. I dare you…Try It….and see for yourself!
So, now that I have had a few days of dressing up….well, maybe not Up, but at least better….I am even getting myself into some of my new Spring 2017 things. On purpose, when I was shopping last with the current Doncaster Collection I chose things that are transitional, that I can wear early in the season when I am Really feeling the need to have some NEW looks. So, now….it is time to Wear Them! Remember, Wear them in good health…and wear them often! That is how we become comfortable in our newer things and embrace all the good things that will come our way because we are well dressed!
So, try it for yourself. Accept the challenge! You will be so glad that you did!!
If you need some inspiration go to Doncaster.com and check it out!? I’m confident you will find some things to perk up your closet! And, you will be glad that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts about mixing up your closet!!