It only works for us, if it is comfortable enough to wear All Day Long…and takes us to all the places we want to go! And…when we want to feel Cool when we wear it! I mean … Cool….as in edgy, smart, sassy …as in it puts a bounce in my step! I’m confident that I look fine…because I feel good. That means things like…I like the fabric…it feels good on my skin. It might mean that I like the color….try something New To You. Forget the old….I can’t wear stripes! Or I never wear Yellow! Try it, you might like it!
We reach a time in our lives when maybe we feel invisible. Do you ever feel that way? I often hear that from my clients. If so…try something new! It can be as simple as a new pair of pants….a pretty scarf…or a blouse with a lot of pattern! Or…a new pair of shoes! Not too far out….but something that’s New To You, and comfortable enough to wear all day long. You will notice that people begin to compliment you….and that feels so Good! of course when someone compliments you you know she/he has noticed you!
Speaking of compliments!! They are a great, and they are a Free, Source of Energy! Think about it! A compliment is a Win/Win! It’s makes the complimentee feel good, of course! But, it also makes the complimentor feel good also! Try it! You will see what I mean! When you take the time to compliment someone, in a way, you are offering your support to her…acknowledging her. You are sharing with her that you Noticed Her….and for a lot of women that’s a Lot!
One more thing, when you do go out on a limb and choose something New that you like and you think you can wear, and you are up to at least trying it out….be sure to Wear It!! Don’t Save it for the Perfect Occasion! Do you know why? It’s simple….once you get in the habit of saving it…it will never be good enough to actually Wear! We have to wear our clothes in order for them to work their magic!! I try to make it a point to wear my new thing with in the first few days….just because! I always tell my clients….Wear It In Good Health…and Wear It Often!!
Our new things become old favorites when we Wear them! We learn to wear them here, and there, and everywhere in between….in fact to all the places we go each day.
And really what we all want is a closet full of clothes that take us to the places we go….and make us feel good when we are on the move!
Are you looking to Feel Better? Go shopping! Take a look at what is out there! Try something new! Get inspired! If you are having trouble…Call Me!! I can help you to make the right choice!
I think you will be glad you did!
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Recently we took a trip to meet up with some really good friends that we haven’t seen in such a long time! It was a Birthday Party, in Florida…
Happy Birthday Chris and Cappy!
and we had so much fun! We have known these people for most of our lives!! We knew their parents…and in some cases Grandparents! And, of course, we know their children and their spouses, and now their Grandchildren also! It’s such an amazing phenomenon, when you think about it! Think about it this way….how many generations do you know of your closest friends!?! Probably not that many! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again! 🙂
We are the Lucky Ones….!
Actually, we had a lot of fun during our short visit talking about ME….and my BLOG! Imagine that?!? Everyone we saw has not subscribed to BBDStyle….yet…but we still had such fun talking about…
Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up
….and the rest will be History in the making.
It turns out that the women love it, and often recite to themselves….Barbara Drake says…GU.DU.SU…..but the real surprise was that the men said the same thing! The most brilliant thing about this one is….it sounds like it should be so easy….but we all know that on some days it is Really, Really Hard!
Then one of the guys said, I like the other one she says even better!! I was so surprised! Which one could he be talking about??
Dress like you are going somewhere better…later!
Of course I said!! That’s a great one too!Those of you that see me often know that I use that one a lot!
So, alas, finally it was time we all had to leave and go back to the real world! We went to pack our bags and get ready to go out to Brunch with some other friends, on our way to our next stop. As we rode down the elevator we thought everyone else had already left….but, not so! As we stepped out of the elevator into the lobby the birthday girl exclaimed….OMG! Are You Going Somewhere Better…Next!?! 🙂 And I immediately got it! Well, I thought….That’s for me to know….and for you to find out, I guess!! 🙂
So if you haven’t tried it yet….think about it this way….keep them guessing!! What are you doing?? Where are you going?? If you dress like you are going somewhere important….you will keep them all guessing! How fun is that!? It’s easy….and comfortable….to be well dressed when you have the right tools!! Think of your clothes as your “tools”….and think of your favorite tools as your Doncaster clothes!!
I have the Fall 2017 here at home if you can come see what’s new, please call me! This is a great time to shop….
If you travel a lot, or have the grandkids come to visit Wisconsin in the Summertime…
If you have a busy schedule, and find you can take a break NOW…
If you are a Fashionista at heart and want to see and take advantage of the Next New Thing!
Call me if you can make it! You will be glad you did!
… after reading my recent post…..that I am going to concentrate on being grateful for all the things I Can Do….and stop beating myself up for the things I can’t do!!
And what we can all do is to Get Up. Dress Up. Show Up …and make some History! And fingers crossed, it will be all good!
So, are you with me…?! 🙂
Please comment & share your thoughts!
I had such fun! I’ve just finished up SHOWTIME! for Spring & Summer 2017. It was so much fun to see so many friends….some that I see regularly, and some that I hardly ever see! I just love my job! 🙂
But the most surprising thing was how many people told me ….”I’m trying to add navy to my closet”! Remember?? You might remember … That was my advice in the last newsletter that I wrote! It was cute the first time, and in fact almost went over my head! Yet by the time I transferred the clothes to the next person I had heard the same thing from soooooo many people! How fun is that!?
Do you have a problem/dilemma that you can’t solve in your closet? Let me know! And I will try to shed some light on a way to tackle that problem! I guess that my biggest problem is making sure that there is Nothing in my closet that I can’t wear … right now! Everything should be fixed, clean, fit!, and make me feel good when I put it on!
They say, Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal! I don’t want to waste my time with clothes that don’t work for me anymore! They just aren’t good enough. The things in my closet have to take me to the places that I go to. If they don’t make me feel good when I put them on, then I figure that I just don’t need them any more…they just aren’t good enough! It’s too hard to Fall in Love with Your Life ….when your pants don’t fit!
So… start being selective! Be Discriminating! If your pants don’t fit, aren’t comfortable…don’t make you feel good….separate from them right then and there. Keep a shopping bag in the bottom of your closet. If you can’t wait to get out of those pants, put them right into that bag when you take them off…and share them with a charity that will make sure they get connected to someone that can really Use Them!
You will be SO GLAD that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts!
Oh No! I have nothing to wear!
Now, those of you that know me well….know that couldn’t be true! What, You Say?!?
I guess it is more about the fact that I am so tired of wearing the same, old thing! (I could Scream!!) I get up, go to my closet … I can’t decide what to wear….so I choose the same, old thing I wore yesterday…and maybe even the day before that!! What am I thinking??? Whatever ever happened to Get Up. Dress Up. & Show Up….And the Rest Will Be History!? (My mantra?!?) The last time this happened I made a promise to myself….I’m going shopping in my closet! Today! No more wearing the same thing every day, just because it is easier!
So, I did it! I got up and noticed, immediately, that it was a bright & sunny day, a rare occurrence in early February in Wisconsin! I went into my closet and chose something that was right there and I haven’t really worn it since Christmas. Today is the day! I chose the beautiful red, silk blouse, and favorite necklace….so then I decided it was alright to wear my favorite black pants! Some red lipstick…and I was out the door! A few years ago I started a Lunch Bunch group with 2 other ladies named Barbara. Oddly enough we even have last names that begin with D, so we call ourselves BD3…BD Cubed! And just by coincidence, that day was Go Red for Women Day! And I had on my Red Silk Blouse! As it turned out, it was so much fun! Sometimes we have 4 or 5 ladies show up, and this day we had about 12! It was wonderful!
So, here is the learning….I could so easily have stayed in my “same old” rut, but I took my own advice…to GU.DU.&SU. (get it?)…and I am So Glad That I Did! Everything was better. It sounds crazy, I know….but it works. I dare you…Try It….and see for yourself!
So, now that I have had a few days of dressing up….well, maybe not Up, but at least better….I am even getting myself into some of my new Spring 2017 things. On purpose, when I was shopping last with the current Doncaster Collection I chose things that are transitional, that I can wear early in the season when I am Really feeling the need to have some NEW looks. So, now….it is time to Wear Them! Remember, Wear them in good health…and wear them often! That is how we become comfortable in our newer things and embrace all the good things that will come our way because we are well dressed!
So, try it for yourself. Accept the challenge! You will be so glad that you did!!
If you need some inspiration go to Doncaster.com and check it out!? I’m confident you will find some things to perk up your closet! And, you will be glad that you did!
Please comment & share your thoughts about mixing up your closet!!
I am sure I am not the only one that is happy to say goodbye to 2016…and Hello to 2017!
2017! The Best is yet to Come!
The sky is blue…it’s cold…but oh well! After all, we live in Wisconsin!
This is a great time to go thru your closet and find some things that you haven’t worn in a while, get them out and wear them! If you don’t love how they Feel, that means it is OK to part with them and move on. Take an inventory of your closet! Do you like what you see? Do the black pants fit? The way you want them to? If not, take them and put them in a bag for Goodwill…or a Woman’s Shelter near you… right away! Don’t spend a lot of time talking yourself into why you should them this year! If your sweaters are worn and piling, part with them! Add some pretty colors to your collection. It will perk up your day….and those around you! Take stock every week or so….keep the give away bag in the corner of the closet until it is full. And then find another bag that does have room for some more things. Be relentless!! Ruthless, even!
Spring is the best time for a lot of us to buy knits. Why, you ask? Because of the fabrication. Generally there is not much wool in the knit during this season. I have a lot of clients that can’t wear wool…too many allergies, and too itchy to wear on dry, flaky skin. Think about replenishing now! Besides, the colors are generally are so pretty! That alone will put a bounce in your step…even on the coldest day!
If 2017 is going to be the Best One Yet….Let’s be sure to dress for it! Anticipate success when you Dress like you know what you are doing! And be prepared to work your very own magic! Be prepared to THRIVE! Because there is every reason to believe that you will!
Be sure to save some time to come by and see me and the Doncaster Spring 2017 Collection!
January 19 -21, 2017, Thursday & Friday 10-7pm, Saturday til 2pm
Woman’s Club of Wisconsin, 813 E. Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee
2017! The Best One Yet!!
I think sometimes we get in our own way! Why do we do that…?
Think of it this way….if you agree to do something new…agree to give it your BEST shot! What do you have to do to make people believe that you will be successful at this new venture. And then think….what Else can you do?? To make it Better!?! Give it your best shot…and then some! Why? Because that is how you will know that it is the right thing for you, or not. If you don’t give it your best, from the “Get-Go”, then you really will not know if it was really the right thing for you or not? You might limp along, doing your thing….but if you don’t give it your ALL you will never know what the real ending could be! Maybe you will have lack luster success, which would be fine, under certain circumstances. But how would you feel if you found out a year later…or 2 maybe….that if you had done one more thing you might have been GREAT!
Success breeds success….I didn’t make that up! But, the opposite is true also….lackluster performance brings lackluster results. Lackluster is fine….in fact, lackluster is great for some people! But what if you could have done one more thing, and have success from the outset? Then it would follow that you would have wild success!! After all….Success Breeds Success, right!? Give it your best shot! From the beginning! So the success can multiply!! That way if something else presents itself to you, you can have a better shot at making smart decisions about which direction to take at the next fork in the road.
When I started my business, I was invited to an event to learn about something new….Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12. I didn’t know the people that invited me, I didn’t know who else was going, and I wasn’t looking for a job! But I was curious to see what it was all about….so I said YES! I am proud to say that it has turned out to be a Great Opportunity for me! I have met wonderful women….and men! I have been places and done things I never thought of doing. And it has all been a result of saying YEP…I’ll try it! And I did! I jumped in both feet first and gave it my best effort! I have the luxury of being proud of what I have done, because I believe that I have done the best I can….and the results have been GREAT! Of course, some seasons are better than others….but ultimately I can live with the results because I believe that I did the best I could.
It is easier to be the best you can be if you dress like you mean it. Don’t be afraid to be the best dressed woman in the room. The other people in the room will be so mad at themselves for wearing the same old same old black bottoms! Just trust me….and believe it! Because it is true! This is the perfect time to try it out…..it’s the HOLIDAYS. Wear something different…something new….something that you like….and that you haven’t worn in a bit. It’s the perfect opportunity to shine! If someone approaches you and says…what are you wearing??!! And why are you wearing it?? You can tell them that I told you to!
Dress Well. It will help you to FEEL Better! And THRIVE!!!!!!
Please comment & share your thoughts….!
15 years ago I was invited to a luncheon, in Milwaukee….at the Pfister Hotel. The Pfister is generally regarded as the best hotel in town ….especially at that time. The funny thing was that I didn’t know the people that invited me….or who else was going. I had never heard of the company, at that time we were called elana. And for some reason I accepted the invitation and went to the event. Curious to see what it was all about.
My Dad had just died the week or two before the luncheon. He had been sick for a very long time and it was somewhat of a relief, actually, that he was finally going to Rest In Peace. I am the oldest of 4 children and I wanted to talk about my Dad at his funeral. I had decided that long before he died. But when it finally happened I had a really big problem! I had nothing to WEAR!! I tried to find something ‘altar appropriate’….and it wasn’t as easy as it sounds!! You see I have a difficult body type to fit and the choices were, generally, terrible. I found ‘something’ that was fine, but the important thing was that I had had the experience! I knew what it was like to want/need something nice to wear and I couldn’t FIND ANYTHING !!
Imagine my surprise when I returned home from the funeral to find an invitation to come to a luncheon to be introduced to Designer Fashion Beginning at size 12?!? I was anxious to know more!
I was so taken by the idea….by the people I met that day….and the idea that what every woman wants is to have clothes in her closet that take her to where she goes! I had never thought of my clothes that way before. These people had a new product that catered to women like me.
You see, the fact is
*the average American woman wears size 16 and above, 67% of American women wear size 14-24.
*she has places to go and things to do….and generally is very Good at what she does
*the baby boomers are aging, their body types are changing. Suddenly, nothing fits.
This sounds like a wonderful opportunity!! I’m in!! I think I can do this!! I think I can contribute to the success of a company like this. I know women who will want to know about what this is all about….and I really getting to know the people encouraging me to join them! I felt like there was a train going by, with a great team of people urging me to jump on board their train and help them improve their product and to introduce what we knew about to others.
Well, as you can guess, I said YES!! And I’m so glad that I did!!! I am just home from the DONCASTER 2016 Fashion and Business Conference. I am happy and proud to say that I have made a difference!! I have met women from all over the country, young women, more mature women…some of whom have been in this business 25, 35, 45….& up….and some that are brand new!! As our world has changed in the last 15 years, so has my business…and the company, too. But the one thing that has not changed….we LOVE our business! We LOVE our clients!! We LOVE how we feel when we wear our new clothes…..and really all we want to do is to keep on keeping on!!
The new clothes are gorgeous! I know you will want to see them as soon as I get them in January…..especially if I haven’t seen you in awhile!! Come see me and together we will keep making a difference.
If you would like to know more about the Doncaster Opportunity let me know! Or….go to DONCASTER.COM. They will be able to help you!
I think you will be glad you did!
Regularly, around this time of year, every year….
I ask my clients this question. When was the last time you bought a new coat?! And regularly the response is….I don’t need a new coat! I have a closet full of coats!! Exactly!!! That is why you probably need a new coat! And it is especially true this year. This is the year of the Coat. Your top coat is the garment that sets the tone for your whole look! Recently I have actually wanted to wear a jacket/coat. I have a new coat for this year. It is the thing that helps me to push my look out of my comfort zone…it prompts me to try something new. And generally, that is such a great feeling! It puts a bounce in my step every time! I don’t understand why we buy lovely, new clothes and then we go and cover up with a tired, old coat!? Why do we do that? I see it in the grocery store, the mall, just about anywhere and everywhere I go … all winter long. When I see the lady across a crowded mall in that big old coat, hanging down to her ankles, (and she is trying her best to navigate the escalator!) and with big old shoulders, with great big epaulets….I think, Oh Dear! She has had that coat a LONG time!! I know …. because I had a coat like that when my children were babies!! And they are in their late 30’s!! Come on Ladies, let’s get with the program! We can do better than this!
Around this time is when the client says to me….Oh, I can’t part with that coat!! I love to walk the dog in the bitter cold Wisconsin winter!! All right. All right! But don’t wear that coat any place else…once the sun comes up it must be back in the closet!
Some days you will be plenty warm enough with a beautiful, pebble knit capelet. Maybe a ginger fur trimmed vest…with a ginger wrap? Maybe a mixed media black vest? Or maybe a new tweed coat? Or my favorite, the jacquard jacket with a funky underpinning for good measure…the funkier the better for this coat! And, maybe, depending on where you live, the reversible wool animal print/multi print will be just enough….to take you from the garage to the office.
How can you tell if you should keep this coat? Or that one? Try the FFF test! How does it Feel when you touch it? Does it feel good on your skin? Does it make you smile at the thought of wearing it? Does it Flatter you, and your physique? Is it modern and contemporary? Are you prompted to think…Hmmm….How will I wear this? Where will I wear it?? And, last but not least…does it Function the way you want it to? Will it take you to the places you want to go!?
Think about it! Take a quick glance in the mirror as you are walking out the door….what do you think?? Is your look Fine? That’s Great!
Have a Great Day!
I saw the most attractive woman tonight on my way home from the city.
We have the most beautiful lakefront here in Milwaukee. It has been a long day, so I came home by the lake. I was going along with the crowd, not really paying much attention to what was going on around me…on this GORGEOUS, FALL DAY…down by the beach!!
All of a sudden I noticed this woman jogging/walking/taking her daily constitutional walk…you could just tell! She was stunning! I don’t know her…at all! She was a big, tall, black woman…maybe 6′ tall. Her hair was black and shiny, pulled back and she had the most beautiful look on her face. She was plugged into her tunes and completely enjoying her moment! She was a big woman. She had a curvy shape, bigger breasts and full round hips….but she didn’t “jiggle” anywhere! It was so amazing! I guess one reason I found her looks to be so alluring is that she didn’t fit the “usual” definition of beautiful. And yet I was just mesmerized by her demeanor. She seemed so happy! So strong and confident! I wish I had had the opportunity to meet this woman.
I decided I just HAD to write about her, because she made me think about how do we actually define what is beautiful? Alluring?? Captivating?? What is the elusive thing that we call beauty. Take a minute out of your busy day and think about it. I’m guessing, like me this afternoon, when you really think about it, it will probably include characteristics that might surprise you. Confidence, strength…physical size and general coordination. In this case, this afternoon, it was NOT about what the lady was wearing….or….what she wasn’t wearing! It was all about everything else…..and it was fascinating!
Think about it. What do you find attractive….watch the people living their lives around you. Is there something that stands out?? Something that you might notice…and find attractive? In a new way??
Think about it! I think you will be glad you did!