Make New Friends….
…..but keep the old. One is silver, the other gold!
I was driving around town this morning and had the radio on. They were talking about time….and the different meanings of time. How we are pressed for time today, in the 21st century, and we have to make time to see the people that are important to us and to do the things that are important to us.
And then there is the conversation about Time….where did it go!?! How is it possible that so much time as passed us by?!? It was while they were talking about “where does the time go” that the conversation got really interesting. The son was trying to convince his Dad to invite a new friend out to dinner. Dad replied….oh no, I can’t! I don’t have time! The son said Dad, why not ask her for tomorrow night? I don’t have the time he said…again. And the son said Of course you do….again!
It turns out that the son was talking about ask a friend to dinner…make a new friend. The Dad was reluctant to try to make a new friend because he felt he didn’t have enough time left in his lifetime to develop a friendship like those he already has….and cherishes so deeply.He felt that his old friends that hold a special place in his heart/life were irreplaceable and he would be tossing them aside if he chose to develop new friends along the way. And I thought…..that’s true! As we age we become so much more attached to the old friends….those friends that you have had for years! Those friends that you have had for years, even if you haven’t seen, or spoken to them, in years! They hold a very special place in our hearts and we should cherish them dearly.
But that doesn’t mean that we should continue to reach out to people that we meet, people that we think we might like to know better. Our lives will be so much richer if we continue to add new people to our ever growing roster of friends.
One of the really good things about my job as a fashion consultant is that I meet new people all the time! And sometimes, I have reason to renew my old, cherished friendships too. I LOVE that! I love to introduce them to each other! They love to meet each other…..and we all learn new things about one another. You might remember me talking about reconnecting with some wonderful old friends earlier this summer?
It was such fun to connect some of the new people in my life with some of my dear friends that I known had for decades….literally decades! If you have a dear friend that you hold close to your heart, call her! Make the time to reconnect with her. Share with her what you are doing now. Introduce her to the people you see now….the things you do now. And on the other hand, take a minute, make it a point, to reach out to the woman across the way that seems interesting to you. Ask her for coffee. Find out more about her. I am sure she will want to know more about you! After all, think of it this way, why wouldn’t she want to know more about you!?! And before you know it you will have a healthy roster of friendships….of all sorts! That will make your life more interesting….and I imagine…..hers also!
So, don’t forget…..Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other gold. I know you will be glad you did!
We are all busy, but we really aren’t that busy….are we?!